I'm a 14 year old girl and I met a 20 year old man on myspace. We have alot in common and he likes the way I look. He's a DJ and he wants me to go to his house to listen to his music for new years. I trust him, but i'm a little worried with the fact that he KNOWS im underage and still wants me to come over to his house ALONE. I've heard all those terrible stories on the news about girls getting hurt.... but he just dosent seem like that kind of person! what should I do?
jenn2007-12-23T11:27:36Z
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Don't do it. It might seem cool to you, but he's obviously a loser, because 1) He obviously can't get someone his own age (think if you liked a boy who was 6 years younger than YOU--8???) and 2) He obvioulsy can't meet someone in real LIFE that is his age and wants him. (Not to say meeting people on internet doesn't work, but when it's this situation, he's obviously a loser.)
DON'T DO IT!!! Seriously, he has bad intentions, no doubt about it.
Goodness gracious, If you go to his house, most likely you're going to have sex. Yeah you'll listen to music but it won't be for long. I know that you may like this guy but, a lot of people sound and look good over the internet. He's 20 yrs old, he should be messing with women not girls. My question to you is: don't you feel just a little uncomfortable about this? I could understand an 18 or 19 year old girl, but 14 hell no! I hope you do the smart thing and not go, or I'll see you on the nearest Berkeley Farms Milk Carton.
Yes, it is.... Actually, on 2nd thought, Philippines has a law against child abuse but that only pertains to sexual intercourse (in regards to this case) so I guess that if you 2 can wait to have sex until he turns 18 and are just in a relationship then you are fine.. Some people still do abstinence.. Not sure if you can since you're already 20 but a lot of Filipinas still do.. Guys just want it all the time so the control is on you.. I disagree with the fact that a relationship will exist between a minor and an adult and the relationship will also be under a lot of pressure and criticism.. Maybe not as much as if the gender is reverse where the guy is the adult and the minor is the girl...
This is going to sound drastic, and probably like an overreaction, but trust me, it's not: call the police. Tell them about this guy, and ask if they can tell you if he has a record as a pedophile. Chances are, he does, or if he doesn't yet, he will soon. Don't let it be with you.
Whatever the police say about this guy, DON'T GO ANYWHERE NEAR HIM. EVER. You need to block him on MySpace, and I know -- I KNOW it's going to feel like you're doing something wrong, since he seems like such a great guy, but honey, please... don't put yourself in any more danger than you're already in. And you *are* in danger!
A 20 year old MAN that wants to spend time alone in his house with a fourteen year old CHILD (mature though you may be, you are still a child) is not safe, even if he has the best of intentions. He might not plan to harm you, but there's something off about him, or he wouldn't even want to be spending time with you alone. He would know it's not cool, if he were a healthy, safe person.
Also, if he had no plans to do anything sexual with you or something like that, he would be wise to stay away from you for his OWN protection! Most men aren't willing to put themselves in a position where it would be so easy for a girl to accuse them of rape or molestation, and would never be alone with a girl your age just so they can't ever be accused of something they didn't do.
If you need help finding the strength to do this (I have been in similar situations, when I was about your age -- with DJs, nonetheless!), please email me. The link is on my profile. Whatever you do or don't do, though... get as far away from this guy as you can.
Definately don't go! You can always listen to his music over the computer or something. Internet relationships are not any good! Even if he seems trustworthy, you never know and it's best to stay on the safe side in this type of situation. Some guys turn out to be alright, but the wierdos know how to play you to make you do what they want, lead you to trust them, and you could end up with a whole lot of trouble!! Him liking the way you look is a sure way to make you feel good, but you never know if he's a fake or not. If you can do without him, leave him be. Its better safe than sorry.