20 year old interested in 14 year old?

Don't do it. It might seem cool to you, but he's obviously a loser, because

1) He obviously can't get someone his own age (think if you liked a boy who was 6 years younger than YOU--8???)

and

2) He obvioulsy can't meet someone in real LIFE that is his age and wants him.

(Not to say meeting people on internet doesn't work, but when it's this situation, he's obviously a loser.)

DON'T DO IT!!! Seriously, he has bad intentions, no doubt about it.

Goodness gracious, If you go to his house, most likely you're going to have sex. Yeah you'll listen to music but it won't be for long.

I know that you may like this guy but, a lot of people sound and look good over the internet. He's 20 yrs old, he should be messing with women not girls. My question to you is: don't you feel just a little uncomfortable about this? I could understand an 18 or 19 year old girl, but 14 hell no! I hope you do the smart thing and not go, or I'll see you on the nearest Berkeley Farms Milk Carton.

God Bless!!!!

Yes, it is.... Actually, on 2nd thought, Philippines has a law against child abuse but that only pertains to sexual intercourse (in regards to this case) so I guess that if you 2 can wait to have sex until he turns 18 and are just in a relationship then you are fine.. Some people still do abstinence.. Not sure if you can since you're already 20 but a lot of Filipinas still do.. Guys just want it all the time so the control is on you.. I disagree with the fact that a relationship will exist between a minor and an adult and the relationship will also be under a lot of pressure and criticism.. Maybe not as much as if the gender is reverse where the guy is the adult and the minor is the girl...

This is going to sound drastic, and probably like an overreaction, but trust me, it's not: call the police. Tell them about this guy, and ask if they can tell you if he has a record as a pedophile. Chances are, he does, or if he doesn't yet, he will soon. Don't let it be with you.

Whatever the police say about this guy, DON'T GO ANYWHERE NEAR HIM. EVER. You need to block him on MySpace, and I know -- I KNOW it's going to feel like you're doing something wrong, since he seems like such a great guy, but honey, please... don't put yourself in any more danger than you're already in. And you *are* in danger!

A 20 year old MAN that wants to spend time alone in his house with a fourteen year old CHILD (mature though you may be, you are still a child) is not safe, even if he has the best of intentions. He might not plan to harm you, but there's something off about him, or he wouldn't even want to be spending time with you alone. He would know it's not cool, if he were a healthy, safe person.

Also, if he had no plans to do anything sexual with you or something like that, he would be wise to stay away from you for his OWN protection! Most men aren't willing to put themselves in a position where it would be so easy for a girl to accuse them of rape or molestation, and would never be alone with a girl your age just so they can't ever be accused of something they didn't do.

If you need help finding the strength to do this (I have been in similar situations, when I was about your age -- with DJs, nonetheless!), please email me. The link is on my profile. Whatever you do or don't do, though... get as far away from this guy as you can.

Good luck, sugar.

Definately don't go! You can always listen to his music over the computer or something. Internet relationships are not any good! Even if he seems trustworthy, you never know and it's best to stay on the safe side in this type of situation. Some guys turn out to be alright, but the wierdos know how to play you to make you do what they want, lead you to trust them, and you could end up with a whole lot of trouble!! Him liking the way you look is a sure way to make you feel good, but you never know if he's a fake or not. If you can do without him, leave him be. Its better safe than sorry.

but he just dosent seem like that kind of person! what should I do?...............

Run just as fast as you can in the other direction. A 20 year old man is only asking a 14 year old girl to his house for no good reason. Think if it this way...... What would your mom/dad say if they knew you were even thinking about doing something like that much less going ahead and doing it.

Can you say pervert? sicko? weird?

Tell your parents and have them call the cops. Chances are this person has done perverted stuff before and stands a better than average chance of being on the run from the law. Check him on the FBI database for sex offenders, etc.

Sounds like a really bad situation to me! There is a reason there are laws in place to protect the underage from the over 18ers. He really should be inviting you over to his place at all!

If you have a good relationship with your parents you could talk to them about the situation. Get their input. Although they may kick you off myspace for a while....

I think that you should ignore this myspace guy. If you are meant to be with him then you'll find him again once you are over 18 and that big of a age difference isn't as weird.

You definitely should not go to this man's house alone or with friends. He is a predator that takes advantage of meeting young girls like yourself online and then rapes, tortures, and kills them. You do not know him. People can be anything they want to be online and then you might meet this guy and he has lied about who he is and possibly posted a picture of someone else that is not even him. DO NOT TRUST HIM! No 20 year old man, in his right mind, wants to meet a 14 year old girl alone and not expect something from her. If you still persist in going PLEASE tell your friends where you are going to be, his name and exact address, so that if something does happen to you, your family can at least have a place and information to start looking for you.

Please do not go. There is something wrong with this guy. He is a sicko!

It doesn't matter what type of person he seems to be. How do you know, anyway?

It's wrong...and illegal...and HE KNOWS THIS.

You met someone online and you are already prepared to trust him? He wants you to come over alone? Have you lost your mind? I suggest you stop all contact with this person. I also think your parents need to strictly enforce some new internet rules for you.

You have absolutely no way of knowing what this person is like or what his intentions are. If you think all will be fine, you may find out that you are sadly mistaken. At 14, you should know better to even consider meeting this person. It only takes one mistake to have your life changed forever. I hope that this is one you don't make.

EMT

Honey, NONE of the guys that do terrible things to minors "seemed" like the kind of person who would do that to the teen they harmed or killed.

A 20 yr old man going after a minor is NOT kewl and he's NOT just interested in you hanging out and listening to music. Stay away from him, and cut off all contact NOW (don't be a fool).

Stick to dudes under 18 until you hit 18 yourself....you're not even old enough to be dating one-on-one. Where are your parents and why aren't they monitoring your online behavior and contacts?

A 20 year old guy has NOTHING to do with a 14 year old girl, and vice versa.

If he wants you to come to his house alone, he wants to have sex with you... if not rape you. You need to start hanging out with kids your own age and get off Myspace.

It's kids like you that get pregnant at 14 and their parents wonder why.

Brandon