How do I tell my girlfriend i don't love her the way she loves me?
So I have a girlfriend and we've been dating for about 2 or 3 months now. I've practically known this girl my whole life and she has been one of my best friends since god knows when, but thats the problem I don't think of her as a girlfriend, i think of her as a friend. I want to tell her this but i'm afraid of breaking her heart, or ruining our relationship.
If you have any suggestions on what to do or say it will great. thanks
2008-02-10T12:23:58Z
For those of you who are asking why i even dated her in the first place its an awkard situtation, when we first started dating i thought it would be great dating the one girl i've always connected with and i guess i just didn't think it all the way through.
mirrorbee2008-02-10T12:15:13Z
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you must tell her the longer you leave it ,the more you are hurting her. but i have to say your friendship will never be the same
Oh Lordy what a dilemma. Better a heart a little dented than smashed to pieces later on.It truly can only get worse if you let things slide. The actioning of these things is always a lot easier than THE FEAR OF THEM. The first thing you need to say to her is how very much you think of her, and how much u treasure the special times youve had as friends. Let her know how much you trust her and how much you will continue to value her counsel in your Life. But then, equally, you must make it clear that you can only hold her back romantically.That she has the right to meet the someone that you feel that you could never be. Emphise just how precious and special you consider your friendship with her to be. Dont let the day end at that point if you can avoid it.This would create a barrier. Spend some more time once the air has been cleared and talk and think about what has been said and what the future holds 4 the 2 of you. Maybe, if she is just a little perceptive, you may not be dropping the bombshell that you think you are...I hope not anyway. Im sure you will both be fine. Enjoy your future friendship
You should have never started dating such a good friend?there are always risk of not only losing a gf but a good friend as well? All I can say is you have to be honest and up front with her. The longer you drag this out the more attached she will become. And then you really run the risk of losing a good friend? The truth always hurts but a lie is worse.
Uh...if you think of her as a friend then why are you dating her? And why do you refer to her as your "girlfriend"? Conflicting signals going on here and I wouldn't blame her in the least for being more than a little put out with you over this. You haven't exactly been honest here. Better get the air cleared quickly on this one. You owe her that much. As to being afraid of ruining the relationship....might be too late...who knows?? Good luck.
It would be better if you tell her the truth because if she really likes you and den later she realises dat u just took her as a friend itz goin to hurt her tomuch.But if u could say her de truth somehow,im sure she could get over it faster,nd since u say u knoe her,speak to her in de best manner so dat u dont ruin ur relation.But for once be ready for anything and everything!