ok i have another issue. so me and this one girl are like such best friends, but everyone is getting mad at me and her for always being with each other. (its so hard to explain) so the other girls are always rude to us, so me and my friend hang out because we have the same feelings and we know whats goin on. i just hate it how everyone is like "you guys never invite us for anything"..... ok now theres this other girl and i alwasy think that i am being really nice to her but all of a sudden she said that i am not understanding enough. i want to say something that is really powerful and will get it through all their heads on how these girls are acting. something that will actually make them think about what they are saying. please help me i am in a HUGE HUGE mess!
Lana <32008-02-26T19:46:39Z
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please dont let this drama take over you OR get a hold of you! People are just jealous because they want your attention, If they dont notice by now, SHES YOUR BEST FRIEND! so obviously, youll talk and hang out with her more. Everyone wants the same attention you give to her.
But, if you want you can invite people more; but thats your opinion. dont really let them get a hold of you. Tell them we understand eachother so thats why we really get along. DONT GET OVERSTRESSED ABOUT THIS! seriously. you can do this.
I don't know if there is an answer to this or not. I have met with the same kind of people in my life. I know exactly what you are saying. IF you find someone who really understands you, you tend to want to be with them more and share more of your life with that person. I don't like that drama either. I don't invite all the other people to be with me because they are harping about the world or some other thing when I am not able to get out much and I want to have a good time or I want to go to the library when they want to go shopping . I like quiet and they like a lot of drama going on in their lives. We are different people It isn't that I don't like them, we are just different people.IF you attempt to tell them, they will only become butt hurt, and so, I just try to make time for them when I can and make it special and let them know that they are special to me for all the things they do and are in my life, and then I go back to being me. That is the best way I can tell you to do things. But do make a special time for them, an hour that you devote to only them, each of them. It is a pain in the patooty sometimes, but it is worth it in the long run. It allows them to feel special and it lets you off the hook. Make a special day just for the other friends. (smiles) Then, even though it takes a day away from you and the friend that has so much in common with you, it is worth it in case you need to widen you horizons. (smiles) Sharon
Tell them that you don't know that they want to join you. Tell them that maybe you don't think that they really even want to be with you guys and they're just doing that to tease them. Everyone's mad at you? Then maybe tell each person individually (maddest to least mad) how you feel about everything and you didn't mean to hurt anyone or anything. If everyone's like being mean to you all at once, don't shout in object, just say something like ," You don't understand. If you want an explanation, you're not giving me time to explain because y'all hittin' down at me all at once."
There most likely jealous because they don't have what you have with your bestfriend. But if it is just you two all the time everywhere then that might be a problem to people who want to be friends with you. Try to wider your circle a bit, try inviting them next time instead of you and your bestfriend just going