My wife left me abruptly and filed for divorce. She has our two youngest kids and is poisoning them against me
How do I overcome the lies she is telling them. I have been fairly successful in court. The judge threw out her restraining order but each time I respond to her lies she comes up with new and better ones. Custody is still up in the air and I fear that by the time a ruling is made they will have forgotten me altogether. She has told them unbelievable and horrible things.
My wife suffered horific sexual abuse as a child, when she was 12 her dad allowed a 30 year old loser to use her like his wife/girlfriend. All to provide a cover story for his girlfriend who he wanted to move in to the house. Her mom made a stink about the last girl he tried to move in so this one moved in posing as this guys girlfriend. The guy was allowed to molest my wife in exchange. Pretty sick eh?? 22 years I have tried to help her work through these things and get her father to take responsibility for his mistakes. Our oldest daughter turned 20 and had a baby last spring and Bren really began to struggle. It started to feel as if I was dealing with two distinct people who were very different from one another. We would have a discussin one day and then she would engage me in an argument the next over the exact same issue, as if she had simply forgotten our previous conversation. We consulted a therapist and he suggested a retreat for her to work out her issues.
He did warn her about the possibility of having a psychotic break however, so he advised her to take it slow and for us to interact regularly during this period, we planned for a three week retreat. I began recording the phone calls in an effort to show that some of the conversations she did not remember had actually happened. On Dec 29th, she called in good spirits and said she could finally see how her father was responsible for the lions share of her anger issues, she told me she loved me and needed me and was looking forward to seeing me for new years eve. That evening she had some kind of altercation with the local police over a debit card that had been cancelled and used accidentally, 12 hours later she dropped out of sight and broke off contact with me and our two older kids (17 and 21) Four days later the sherriff showed up in force to remove my youngest daughter (10) our son (7) was already with her. they also served me with a restraining order. This is where it gets stran
This is where it becomes strange. The address she gave for her and my kids was her parents house. We had grown frustrated with failed attempts to have them in our lives and had not spoken to them in eight years. Now, overnight, she has done a complete 180. She has told me and the older kids that they never really hurt her and are great people. We know this to be false as we has witnessed for ourselves their abusive behavior. It is even obvious to the court she is lying as she cannot substantiate even a single one of her accusations. My younger kids and I were very close, i went on their feild trips with them at school and spent loads of time with the at home. Her family always disliked me as I took her side and tried to hold them accountable for what had happened to her. I am sure they are relishing the opportunity to do this my little ones. I do have equal custody rights but I would have to literally take them by force which would just hurt them more. Thus I wait for the next hearing.
Sorry for the length of this. I have requested parenting time through my attorney every week. but there is always a new and more craetive excuse for her refusal. Since there is no custody order in place yet the police will not assist me in getting them. I finally went to their new school just to try and see if they were still alive and my little girl was frightened of me. I decided not to upset my little boy and left. They have filled her head with unbelievable things, for example. I am a disabled desert strom veteran. I lost a finger and tore my shoulder and back in an accident. My little girl looked at me and said, "mom told me the truth about your accident, she said you cut your own finger off because you couldn't handle the military". My two older kids are firmly in my corner and have testified on my behalf as they are too old to be fooled by her ridiculous claims but I am terrified for my babies. I'm worried about my wife too, I just don't know how to reach her. The high road sux