Has anyone actually left a sexless marriage?
I have been married for almost 8 years and my husband has had little or no interest in sex for most of that...especially after the birth of our daughter 4 years ago. (We actually went without sex at all for the first 3 years after she was born).
I have talked to him about it. He promised to give me more physical affection - hugs kisses etc as well as sex......but quickly falls back into the same old patterns. Last week when I wouldn`t let him give the same old tired excuses and promises, he admitted that now I am a mother he can`t see me as anything else. And he can`t see how that can change. I have been going to the gym to get in shape, and have a great new hairstyle.
I just don`t want to keep on doing this. I know that sex is not the only thing in a marriage, but it is important to me.
I hate to break up my daughters family, which is what has kept me here for the last few years.....but I feel that I have wasted the last 8 years of my life.
I should add that I would have be the one to do the leaving. We live in HIS country (Japan), where I have permanent residency. Either I could stay here and live somewhere else or go back to my own country(Australia)
I am also concerned about the child custody laws here which discriminate against foreigners.......
My parents divorced when I was young, so I know how much divorce hurts children. It if wasn`t for that, I would have been out of there long since.
hmm...Killer Queen...
When we actually HAVE sex I don`t have any complaints about my husbands size...
actually before marriage I dated a big tall Australian with a small size and and much shorter Japanese with a very healthy endowment..:)
but.....I do agree that Japan is the country where they do have the least sex.....at least after marriage....
that`s not the question though.................. it`s what I do about it