Has anyone actually left a sexless marriage?

being a man who will soon be ready to leave his sexless marriage, the answer is yes. marriage should be a complete package. mind, body and soul. partners in everything. check into the custody laws, etc. and leave. he sounds like a real ***. its usually the woman who is not interested in sex. so sounds like there is a real problem there. maybe he is getting someplace else. sorry, good luck!

See if your husband will see a counselor!

My husband has major back issues, so we pretty much haven't had sex the whole time we have been married..... I understand what you mean!!!

Please e-mail me if ya wanna chat about it!!! I know it's not his fault, but I do feel left out!

ADDED- there are MANY reasons why he doesn't 'want' to. Physical, chemical, emotional, etc. When is the last time he has seen a Dr? He should get a thorough check up. Have you thought about marriage counseling? You could find out what's up and how to work through it. Does he treat you good in all other ways? If lack of sex is the ONLY reason you want to get a divorce, don't do it! There are many other things to do- Dr, counseling, etc. When was the last time you talked to him about this? Does he know how serious you are? Good luck!

It sounds to me like perhaps he is afraid of getting you pregnant again and that is why he will not have sex with you. One thing you may try is, don't ask him just start the foreplay yourself and no matter what he says don't stop. Continue until he is so excited he could not stop even if he wanted to. Or perhaps you could take him on a weekend trip somewhere with just the two of you and no kids around. Do all you can to get him in the mood and that might help him. Whatever you decide to do I wish you all the luck. If all of that doesn't work just take out your toys and start the job on yourself while he watching. Sometimes that gets a man excited. Good Luck

I have never been in your situation but nothing good ever comes out of a separated family especially one where divorce is involved. NOTHING! The repercussions that ripple through the family are unbelievable. Here are some stories.

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Well, I thought my sex life sucked! Me and the hubby just had the same discussion earlier. Although it hasn't been near that long for us...ever... I still feel neglected and i guess lonely when he "doesn't feel like it". I wish I could give you some good advice but i don't even know what to do in my own marriage. Just know your not alone, and I hope it gets better for you.

this happens. some guys have a low sex drive..low tester-one level..etc..yes you COULD leave your husband and become another mother who raises her child...alone..but you should try to stay married as there is treatments for him to take to perk up his sex drive...melds? or maybe psychological counseling..if he won't do this ..then you will have to find a solution to your problem...maybe a divorce will be in order if you have tried to get him to behave like a normal husband.

You are being cheated out of a normal life..it is your call..you may need to see a counselor too..Good luck..

Sex is important. It is the glue that holds you together, it is the one special thing a couple shares only with themselves and it makes each other feel good about themselves. Very important. You need counseling first. He won't give you more without counseling, it is not his nature.

Kick him out.

I know people who've left sexless marriages, and I know people (mainly men) staying in them because they fear losing their kids in a divorce.

The fact that he doesn't want sex isn't his fault. The fact that he doesn't realize he needs to do something to solve that issue is.

THere are millions of men out there desparate for a woman who actually wants regular sex. Go find one of them and enjoy your life.

hold on WAIT WAIT! hes japanese.... is that what your saying? very small penis....

also, EVERYONE knows that Japan is the country where they have less sex in the world.

that my dear, might answer your question

That is not normal. But if you can live with it, then stay there.