You see its like this I have my man and he is a great person but sometimes I think that I might be the one to blame or am I wrong? Hear me out,Ok on saterday me and my guy went out to get some DVD's and had to whatch the movies but then he got so tired and fell asleep.Ok now you see on Sunday we had to finish them but then his friends came over and the they had some drinks and he never gave me attention, they drank until 10 in the evening I started to ignore him and now should I smile and act as if nothing is wrong or should I face him and tell him what he has done and mind you me I have to take the DVD's back without being whatched???...
Anonymous2008-04-28T01:07:24Z
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First of all we need to pick our battles and identify our underlying issues like:
Why are you hurt? Is it really about the DVD? Is it something bigger then that that is bothering you? Think about it. Maybe even sleep on it before bringing it up If you cannot keep this to yourself (sometimes I cant) then have a calm conversation with your boyfriend by telling him how you feel without using the word "You"
Instead of saying: "You are making me mad because you didnt give me attention and drank with your friends " Say "I kinda felt left out today and my feelings are sort of hurt." If he asks why just say "I wish I would have been able to watch the movies with you since they have to be brought back after a certain amount of time, Maybe next time we should try to remember?"
If you blame him then you both will just fight and it will go nowhere.
Good luck!! Just keep things quiet and calm, no reason to fight when you could be lovin :)
come on, don't make an issue because of the dvd's.. i mean, that is such a small problem you know..like you could just rent it again next time..about him drinking that sunday, well, nobody likes a nag..if he wants some time with his friends then let him..it wouldn't help matters if you nag him about that..i think that is one area that guy's are sensitive about..if he keeps on doing that and it really gets to your nerves, then talk to him maturely about it..don't whine..! tell him how you feel, like if you feel ignored at times or whatever...suggest different ways you could spend time together..that is so much better than probably yelling at him for taking the time to be with his friends..
You must talk to him and tell what you felt. Remember, that "open rebuke is better than secret love". All misunderstanding could be fixed through sincere talking to each other. Pray to God for his guidance. God bless!
i think you should talk to your man and tell him how you feel towards what happened and towards his attitude..do it in a constructive way so he won't be provoked or whatever..