If you were fighting with your mom. And you new her email password, and you read that for nearly a year, she has been telling lies about you behind your back to your aunts and uncles. Would knowing what she is saying, justify the fact that you are reading her emails?
John B
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The answer of course is 'no' but I think you already knew that.
However the knowledge (if she doesn't know you have it) can have a different impact on the situation depending on what you want to do (or not do) with it.
Mercenary.
Print it and pick the next time she fights with you to present it to her face (maybe when one of the Aunts or Uncles are present just to really make it hurt)
Damage,.... pretty heavy (hard to repair quickly and not good for living in harmony in the future)
Veiled threat
Tell her (so sorry) that you might have had an error on the computer because you were trying to access your own mail but the pc had saved her password and you mistakenly entered her mailbox somehow............... leave some silence.
Damage
simmering .....embarrassment possibly turning to rage in defence of the unknown............... (repairable but ......)
If you are honest about this then you surely do need to have the fighting come to a stop especially between a mother and her daughter. There are other ways to do this but it is dependent upon you and her wanting to become friends again.
When you are in the mood for a reconciliation with her and she is quietly doing not much at all, try to sit down together and slowly and gently voice your issues in a conversational way.
Whatever happens from now depends on your presentation or rather way of delivery, you are going to have to do it on equal ground and not from the feeling that you are being picked on. There are two adults in the room and they are related so leave the claws outside when you talk or even suggest that to her to begin with...... go from there.
Steps and progress, it takes just a little time and then it's off to the movies and shopping together, we hope!
Luck
cloud7
no, because you both are telling lies!
One of you should stop.
Confront your Mom and tell her the truth.