My girlfriend snuck into my room this weekend, cleaned and organized my room, bought me $100 of blankets, pillows, and towels.
But, I don't like her that much. I'm just not that into her and don't want such a serious relationship. How do I say no to the gifts????
Anonymous
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Ok this girl sounds a lot like me so I know what she's thinking when she's doing these things for you. She sounds she enjoys taking care of her man and wants to make you happy.
If you can't handle that, think she's being "crazy", aren't that into her, AND aren't ready for such a serious relationship then you need to figure out how to say no to the relationship and not the gifts.
eldots53
Eww. I don't blame you for feeling that way. In one sense, it sounds nice - but it is really creepy, overbearing and intrusive, in the other sense. And uck - she's not your mommy. Who the heck wants somebody else "organizing" your stuff? Some of it is probably private, and none of it is really her business. It's like she's trying to own you. I would would consider dumping her, since you are not that into her. That is frightening.
Did you use the bedding? Or - did she take away/toss your old stuff, so you are stuck with the new stuff or you have nothing? If you still have the old stuff, I would pack up the new and tell her you are refusing it. Either way, I would tell her, that you know she meant well, but it was really over the top and struck you absolutely the wrong way, that she really had no business coming in and doing that, that you think she is way more serious about this relationship than you, and she needs to learn to respect other peoples' independence.
Anonymous
next time she gets u sumthing, be like
kk u dont have to do that, really. REALLY. haha, seriously i feel sort of bad and stuff so dnot get me anything else, k? there gonna get all old since i probably wont be able to go through these bed sheets and my other ones that fast, and i'm not looking for a really serious relationship right now, k? k, good. but thanks anyways.
then kiss her fastly on the lips
Asha
Just say sorry I can't take this and express to her how you feel. and see if you can work something out where the relationship isn't as serious.
Anonymous
well you can say that you appreciate what shes done but your not interested in a relationship with her so she might as well take the gifts back!