When women say "lets be friends" after the breakup.?
Okay maybe someone can enlighten me. The term "lets be friends after the breakup". When women say this and actually want to be friends with there ex. Not just saying let's be friends but actually wanting that friendship from the ex. I think they do this so they can still hold onto the attention they got from the ex bf in the relationship. Any opinions on this? Ever experience this and how did you feel when you had an ex trying to hold onto you for friendship?
ABBYsMom2008-06-01T20:49:25Z
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Lets be friends after a break up is a BS remark, a way in their little minds to let the guy down easier...You can not just be friends with someone you had an emotional relationship with, not gonna happen...There are those rare few but it doesn't last long...If someone ever say this to you, you say...I wont hold my breath....")
Unless both of you are over 35, it generally means "please don't hate me, and say bad things about me to your friends". Girl's/women are socially conditioned to never hurt anyone. That's why we go around saying "I'm sorry." all the time, and especially for things we need not be sorry about because we didn't "do" anything. She want's to maintain a good reputation and fend off a guilty conscious from taking root. She'll probably ignore you and feel very aggravated with you if you actually do try "to be friends" with her because she wants to go out with someone else, who probably doesn't even know she is alive. Go make yourself useful somewhere, truely, you'll feel better doing so.
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Personally, I refrain from saying let's just be friends. Distance is inevitable after a breakup and somewhat necissary to repair feelings. If you just let time repair things then go back to acting like friends then you'll be fine. That's how it's worked for me, every time.
I think it is due to the fact "straight" women are not really straight. So, sexual attraction doesn't have a predominant role in mating. As a matter of fact, they would be dating other women if sexual attraction had the same "weight" it has for gay women as well as gay and straight men given the fact "straight"· women possess a homosexual perceptive bias regarding sexual attractiveness and consider, therefore, the female body more aesthetically pleasant/sexier/easier on the eye/more interesting/etc. IMO, "straight" women represent the worst of the worst when it comes to romance (selfish, homosexual leaning but irrationally self defined as "heterosexual", hypocritical, emotionally distant, sexually indifferent) and we need to realize straight men got the shortest end of the stick regarding sexual orientation.