When women say "lets be friends" after the breakup.?

Lets be friends after a break up is a BS remark, a way in their little minds to let the guy down easier...You can not just be friends with someone you had an emotional relationship with, not gonna happen...There are those rare few but it doesn't last long...If someone ever say this to you, you say...I wont hold my breath....")

Unless both of you are over 35, it generally means "please don't hate me, and say bad things about me to your friends". Girl's/women are socially conditioned to never hurt anyone. That's why we go around saying "I'm sorry." all the time, and especially for things we need not be sorry about because we didn't "do" anything.

She want's to maintain a good reputation and fend off a guilty conscious from taking root.

She'll probably ignore you and feel very aggravated with you if you actually do try "to be friends" with her because she wants to go out with someone else, who probably doesn't even know she is alive.

Go make yourself useful somewhere, truely, you'll feel better doing so.

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Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better. But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get your ex girlfriend attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction. So don't ignore your ex texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can't even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way. You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show your ex girlfriend that your happiness isn't dependent on being with her

Personally, I refrain from saying let's just be friends. Distance is inevitable after a breakup and somewhat necissary to repair feelings. If you just let time repair things then go back to acting like friends then you'll be fine. That's how it's worked for me, every time.

I think it is due to the fact "straight" women are not really straight. So, sexual attraction doesn't have a predominant role in mating. As a matter of fact, they would be dating other women if sexual attraction had the same "weight" it has for gay women as well as gay and straight men given the fact "straight"· women possess a homosexual perceptive bias regarding sexual attractiveness and consider, therefore, the female body more aesthetically pleasant/sexier/easier on the eye/more interesting/etc. IMO, "straight" women represent the worst of the worst when it comes to romance (selfish, homosexual leaning but irrationally self defined as "heterosexual", hypocritical, emotionally distant, sexually indifferent) and we need to realize straight men got the shortest end of the stick regarding sexual orientation.

Mostly, she's letting you down easy, and papering over the situation. She wants you to exit her scene and not cross her path again.

And that's actually the smart play for you as a man, also (to leave her alone), since there's little use in being her fake platonic friend.

Well, when I break up with someone and I say that, I usually mean I jsut want to be friends. Sure, right after the break-up I still might want his attention for a little becasue it boosts self-esteem. but after a while, it fades and I just really want to be only friends and not care about anything besides that.

maybe just maybe she truly thinks of you as friend. Sometimes it not trying to hold on to the attention. maybe you were pretending to be there for her and she was truly being a friend and a girlfriend. you have to deal with your issues of thinking you are all that. She may be being truthfull about being friends. not all weomen want to hold on. some people do develope friendships during their relationship which is how it should be when you really truely care about someone. It's not just physicall.

I've never told a guy that. "Let's be friends" is such a cruel and unusual statement. If she likes your company, then why is she dumping you?

my theory- she wants to make sure she can get you back in the event that the other guy (who she dumped you for) dumps her or she gets bored and dumps him. it's sadistic and perfectly primal- she keeps the ex around so she can keep other girls away from him while she explores her options.

kind of discovery channel, don't you think?

with me I had a hard time holding a friends position with my ex if I was nice to him trying to be a friend he would take it wrong and think that I wanted to be with him again. I would say its very hard to go back to friends once the relationship has ended..