He *thinks* I'm being manipulative by witholding sex, should I let this kill our relationship?
My BF and I had a huge fight on the day we were being evicted. While he was angry he said he was breaking up with me, and I had to get out of the apartment, so I went to my mother's. My mother and I have never gotten along and I cannot stand to live with her again but it's the last place I have to go. After 3 days of not talking to me he called and said he's sorry, he never actually planned on breaking up, and if I hadn't called her he would have come back to help me just before I would have had to leave. Since he's been there for me for 3 years, through much worse situations, I believe him. But I told him it's too late. I love him very much and I want to make it work with him but I will not move in with him again until I have enough money to move out too, in case that happens again!
Now while we wait to save enough money, we are in a strange situation. Mother will kick me out on the street if I so much as see him. He says he appreciates me risking so much seeing him behind her back
but he "needs" to have sex. It's been 3 months and he's starting to feel like I'm witholding it as either punishment for almost dumping me, or insurance so I can use him to get into another apartment. The truth is, having sex with him now during 1 of the 3 hours a week I get to see him would just make it harder for me when I can't see him, plus I would kind of feel like a whore! I have explained this to him many times, but he's just too pissy to reason with. He's even said "If you really love me you'll do this for me". He's under alot of stress there as well. But what is really going on here? From a guy's perspective, is this kind of thing normal? Does lack of sex really make you that much of an ***, or is it something else? I don't know what to do or say to him anymore. Please help me with this!
BTW thanks for reading all this, it's complicated but I really need some advice! = )