please help me! my soon-to-be boyfriend moved to another state! not dating, but doesn't want me w/ anyone else
kay soo.... me and this guy basically love each other. he moved to Missouri today, and i live in texas. he does not want to date me for apparent reasons of not seeing each other enough. the soonest he can come back to see me is thanksgiving :( i am going to see him on his birthday but like idk. i like him sooo much, and we act just like we are dating when we see each other. also, he does not want to me date anyone else. because "i am his" and "he is mine" but it worries me because, we aren't dating, he doesn't want too, and i trust him and everything but im scarred he will find another girl and hurt me. or do things, and not tell me. please help. i just don't know what to do, or how to explain to him how i feel about this. btw im 15 (about to be 16) and he is 17. if that helps?
2008-07-13T21:53:28Z
oh my goodness. i don't know how much i can thank you! you have helped me out so much. i know exactly what im going to talk to him about now, and how to talk to him about it. thankyou thankyou thankyou!
2008-07-13T22:17:44Z
we have now established a long distance relationship!! yayyyy :D :D and i get to see him atleast twice every month. im so happy :) thanks youuuuuu! soo so so so sooooo much!
annamorphos2008-07-13T21:34:59Z
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ok. Not to sound harsh, but if it was love then the distance would not be a problem.
But since you do have a problem at hand..you need to ask him exactly what he sees for you guys in the future? Because if he's moving to Missouri permanently, then its kinda messed up to make you wait around for him.
Meanwhile, its true, you have NO idea what he is up to. I am not saying that I think he is going to cheat on your or find someone else, but it is kinda messed up.
I would just have a serious heart to heart with him..let him know first off that you do not think that he is a "cheater" but that you are confused. How can you be "his" if you are not dating or in a relationship....
It's what credit collection agents are paid to do....they will find him. They will contact him 10 years from now looking for him to pay back the same debts....it's what they do. How they do it....well, does it matter? He isn't going to be able to avoid them, or his debt. Each time he opens an account, gets a job, applies for new credit, lives somewhere, pays taxes, etc...his credit file will reflect his most current contact information. They will use all of their resources (and many unethical and sometimes illegal) to get him to pay up.
Whatever is ment to be will happen, stay in touch and tell him that you will not agree to stay single unless you are going out with him. If your not in a realationship with him he shouldnt have the right to tell you not to see other people. Tell him you really like him, and if he really likes you then you can talk on the phone/internet...buy a webcam it will seem like your in the same room. I've been with my bf that lives in a different state for about a month, and it's going great.
yea he probably really likes you but most definitly he will meet someone, you just gotta tell him if he dosen't want you to date then you guys gotta date each other if he say no he dosent want to date then there's your answer "move on" and if he agrees then you still kinda gotta problem bcuz he can still cheat and you'll never kno . . . . So basically you have to ask yourself 1st are you ok with a long distance relationship and 2nd do u really trust him enough and think it's worth it???
Considering the pig nature of guys, that's obviously something possible. I don't want to say it's definite but it's definitely possible. Guys are just stupid like that. We take the perfect opportunities we have and throw them away. I say give it a bit and see what happens. Don't get your hopes up too high and expect the worst and just ... move on I guess? I mean that's what they all tell us to do ................ trust me I've been there with a girl and the girl ended up cheating on me, I caught her redhanded ... so it wasn't ME that screwed it up, it was her ...... good luck anyways