please help me! my soon-to-be boyfriend moved to another state! not dating, but doesn't want me w/ anyone else

ok. Not to sound harsh, but if it was love then the distance would not be a problem.

But since you do have a problem at hand..you need to ask him exactly what he sees for you guys in the future?

Because if he's moving to Missouri permanently, then its kinda messed up to make you wait around for him.

Meanwhile, its true, you have NO idea what he is up to. I am not saying that I think he is going to cheat on your or find someone else, but it is kinda messed up.

I would just have a serious heart to heart with him..let him know first off that you do not think that he is a "cheater" but that you are confused. How can you be "his" if you are not dating or in a relationship....

i mean last i checked, slavery was abolished

It's what credit collection agents are paid to do....they will find him. They will contact him 10 years from now looking for him to pay back the same debts....it's what they do. How they do it....well, does it matter? He isn't going to be able to avoid them, or his debt. Each time he opens an account, gets a job, applies for new credit, lives somewhere, pays taxes, etc...his credit file will reflect his most current contact information. They will use all of their resources (and many unethical and sometimes illegal) to get him to pay up.

Whatever is ment to be will happen, stay in touch and tell him that you will not agree to stay single unless you are going out with him. If your not in a realationship with him he shouldnt have the right to tell you not to see other people. Tell him you really like him, and if he really likes you then you can talk on the phone/internet...buy a webcam it will seem like your in the same room. I've been with my bf that lives in a different state for about a month, and it's going great.

yea he probably really likes you but most definitly he will meet someone, you just gotta tell him if he dosen't want you to date then you guys gotta date each other if he say no he dosent want to date then there's your answer "move on" and if he agrees then you still kinda gotta problem bcuz he can still cheat and you'll never kno . . . . So basically you have to ask yourself 1st are you ok with a long distance relationship and 2nd do u really trust him enough and think it's worth it???

Considering the pig nature of guys, that's obviously something possible. I don't want to say it's definite but it's definitely possible. Guys are just stupid like that. We take the perfect opportunities we have and throw them away. I say give it a bit and see what happens. Don't get your hopes up too high and expect the worst and just ... move on I guess? I mean that's what they all tell us to do ................ trust me I've been there with a girl and the girl ended up cheating on me, I caught her redhanded ... so it wasn't ME that screwed it up, it was her ...... good luck anyways

You need to tell him that you are not "his" and he is not "yours". If you want to date others, especially at your ages, you should be free to do so. You say you trust him, but are afraid he'll find another girl. That's not trust, but very likely to happen. By the same token, you'll probably find another guy you like in school. Take things as they come and roll with the flow. You'll do okay.

You are willing to put your life on hold on an assumption that he will not find someone else. Out of sight out of mind. Email and remain friends but move on with your life. The old saying if you love someone let them go if the return it was meant if not then it wasn't.

Forget about him. Are you actually going to let this guy control your life from a couple of states away. Tell him that you will remain friends and if he wants to talk or see you and you have the time you will consider it.

Girl, you are too young to be putting your life on hold for a guy that you aren't even dating. At your age, you're supposed to be dating around (Not sleeping around mind ya) enjoying your life.

For that matter, WHY put your life on hold for a guy that doesn't even want to date you right now?

Time waits for no man, and neither should you!

girl, take it from me i love this guy that i gave him 8 years of my life and i have 2 kids from him,but he move to another state and is been 3 years and i still dont know about him. mans are dogs and they come and go, i waited for him for 1 1/2 year but since i saw he wasnt coming i said to myself life goes on and im better is his lose not mines.

baby girl, live your life if the boy move then let him go now if he comes back thats diferent. ask him to come back and if he does than he loves you but if he doesn't than forget about him theres alot of fish in the sea. adlise you didnt get stuck with kids and thats harder.,......

go thru your heart and define your feelings and let your heart tell you what to do.. dont listen to what other people say as long as your heart desire it, but be carefull cuz you have a long life and you gonna experience love too many times, but dont wait for no men if he left and didnt come back thats his lose..