i am 8 weeks pregnant, i just found out. me and my boyfriend have talked about this before and he told me that if it ever were to happen he would be there to take care of me and the baby. well we are planning on getting married soon and are getting our own place in a couple months. when i found out that i was pregnant he told me to have an abortion, he said that we are not ready, which i agree, we are not. but i am against abortion. he keeps pressureing me to have an abortion, what should i do?
Katie2008-07-24T15:07:20Z
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Well don't let anyone pressure you but do think about what is right for your situation. If you can go through with a pregnancy then consider adoption. If a pregnancy would completely mess up your life right now then consider an abortion. Don't listen to anyone calling you a murderer for preventing a child coming into the world in a bad situation and messing up your and your boyfriends lives.
While I agree with the first response, at the very least please consider adoption. I do not believe in abortion in the case of a perfectly viable pregnancy. However, how do you feel about the issue? While I'd like to say you'd later regret an abortion, I do not know you, but I strongly urge you to consider keeping the baby. This is something wonderful, amazing and magnificent that you have created that will forever be a part of you. Not all women are able to create and grow a baby. This is a blessing and I do not think you should throw it away.
As an individual that has been through both an abortion and bringing a child into this world, I believe that no one can answer this question for you. I personally don't regret terminating my first pregnancy; it was the right thing for me at the time, although it was a VERY difficult thing to deal with emotionally. This is a decision that you need to look within yourself to answer... You have to ask yourself what is best for you, and what would be best for an unborn child.... One of the best things you can do is to make an appointment at Planned Parenthood to talk to a counselor there (they'll talk to you for free and give you all the information you need without pushing you in one direction or another.) Once you have all the information, you can make the decision for yourself. Don't assume that because they preform abortions that they believe abortion is always the answer. Also, don't let your boyfriend "pressure" you into anything... it's your body, your choice. Although you have to realize that he is entitled to his opinion, and he can express how he feels. Although he shouldn't push his opinion on you. If he doesn't support you in your decision, than at least you haven't wasted a marriage with him and you can get out now.... you should talk to him about how you're feeling and how uncomfortable you are with him pressuring you! Good luck, and don't listen to the lunatics out there who try to persuade you one way or another... it's really up to you!
Don’t do it. You say you are against abortion. So I don’t think you would ever forgive yourself if you had one.
You are both adults and need to accept the consequences of having sex.
If you all feel you can not raise a baby at this time then you should place the baby for adoption, you could even do a kinshiop adoption, where someone in your family or his would adopt the baby.
Be glad your having a baby with someone you love and you already plan to marry.
You cannot abort a baby just because someone else tells you that you need to. This is a decision you have to make for yourself without being pressured from others. There are other options out there for women in your situation. Concider adoption, or take responsibility for your actions and keep the baby. If you do decide to abort, make sure you have thought it through and it's YOUR decision.