I HATE being lied to, what should i say/do to my fiance?

My fiance and i live together,we've been engaged for a year and a half. I am almost 22 weeks pregnant with his child,it's our first. Okay well, yesterday he had to work from 8am-4:30pm as a groundskeeper, and he came home at 5pm. I had to go to work from 7pm-11pm He told me in the car that he's going to watch a movie while i'm at work.Now when he and his step-dad came to pick me up from work, my back was sore,my voice was going out on me,and my ear was acting up (i've been getting those problems) and before we went to bed i asked him spacificly if he's been on myspace or anything, because i was suppost to get a msg from my sister, and he told me no, and he said he didn't watch a movie instead he watched t.v. Well i went to bed believing him. This morning when i woke up i went to go check my myspace,and guess what? He was too on mine and his. He also installed java something then took it off, he cleared the history of the web pages he and i visited,

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2008-07-25T06:33:16Z

And the chair we have next to our computer was moved back to where the kleenex was. I don't want to acuse him but with all the clues he's givin me is pretty damn obvious. We had this talk before because i thought he was going on porn and chatrooms to get his dick pulled but all he had to say to that is no i don't do that anymore because of you, i want any of that it's gonna be with you,and i have more respect for you then anyone or anything else. He get's VERY pissed off when i confront him about this stuff,and he does have an anger problem, he gets that from his parents. But what should i do/say to him when he get home? btw i'm suppost to go to the ob/gyn today and we're suppost to pick him up from work so he can go, and he wanted to trade in movies at the mall. But now i don't even think he deserves to go. Girls wouldn't you be this pissed off too?

mrs2008-07-25T06:42:19Z

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i would be mad that he lied about it, for sure. however, all guys look at porn. it's just what they do. if i were you, i would just accept that he does it. it will make your life a lot easier. talk to him and tell him that you understand that he's going to do it, but just don't lie about it. also, understand that this is a fantasy world for men. it's not meant to make you feel insecure or that he wants those women instead of you. good luck. and congrats on the baby!

Amanda Q2008-07-25T13:43:49Z

Personally I think that you should just let it go. The whole thing seems kind of sill to be fighting about. Myspace or even if it was porn it doesn't matter. Really,... in the grand scheme of thing it's small potatoes. I would probably mention to him that he didn't need to lie about it, but would not freak out. As for the doctor's appointment,.... you still need to take him with you. This is about him feeling connected to the baby and pregnancy and is important for helping a father feel included. They don't get those automatic parental feelings cause they aren't carrying the baby.

Bella2008-07-25T13:46:45Z

Yes I would be and yes it sounds like he was looking at porn. I don't like the idea of men looking at porn either but most men need porn to get ideas, or to fantasise. Maybe you should approach him calmly and just tell him that you would rather he just told you the truth than lie to you. Maybe you could make a deal with him that if he does look at porn he does it when you're not around and doesn't talk to you about it (explain how it makes you feel). Just be careful not to insight a fight as this could impact you and the baby or he may get violent (I don't know if he is like that). Also, if you guys are not having sex, maybe he is feeling horny and doesn't want to ask you for it... and has therefore turned to porn. I don't think it is a good idea to punish him by not taking him with you to the ob'n but I would tell him that you felt like doing that because he lied and that hurt you.

justice2008-07-25T14:00:13Z

Morning Mama !
Andy here, sorry about your problem.
Your fiance needs to be honest with you , if he is going to pull one off and you catch him he needs to tell you why he is doing it. Comunication is the most important part in any relationship . Lying is not healthy and only gets worse as time goes by.
Talking about this will only make your relationship stronger, as long as you both discuss it calmly and are honest. Understanding each other and how you both feel in any situation is very heathy !! Maybe embarrassing but, all guys do it. ( cleaning the pipes ) It's normal and he isn't thinking of messing around on you or anything , he is just being a man. But, the lying has to stop !!! GOOD LUCK !!
ANDY

Anonymous2008-07-25T13:39:34Z

Personally, I think you have a control problem here. Give the guy a break for crying out loud. He's an adult and can do what he wants without your permission. He's not running around on you behind your back, is he? He hasn't walked out on you, has he? Why do you have this need to control where he goes on the internet? Give it a rest already.

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