I HATE being lied to, what should i say/do to my fiance?

i would be mad that he lied about it, for sure. however, all guys look at porn. it's just what they do. if i were you, i would just accept that he does it. it will make your life a lot easier. talk to him and tell him that you understand that he's going to do it, but just don't lie about it. also, understand that this is a fantasy world for men. it's not meant to make you feel insecure or that he wants those women instead of you. good luck. and congrats on the baby!

Personally I think that you should just let it go. The whole thing seems kind of sill to be fighting about. Myspace or even if it was porn it doesn't matter. Really,... in the grand scheme of thing it's small potatoes. I would probably mention to him that he didn't need to lie about it, but would not freak out. As for the doctor's appointment,.... you still need to take him with you. This is about him feeling connected to the baby and pregnancy and is important for helping a father feel included. They don't get those automatic parental feelings cause they aren't carrying the baby.

Yes I would be and yes it sounds like he was looking at porn. I don't like the idea of men looking at porn either but most men need porn to get ideas, or to fantasise. Maybe you should approach him calmly and just tell him that you would rather he just told you the truth than lie to you. Maybe you could make a deal with him that if he does look at porn he does it when you're not around and doesn't talk to you about it (explain how it makes you feel). Just be careful not to insight a fight as this could impact you and the baby or he may get violent (I don't know if he is like that). Also, if you guys are not having sex, maybe he is feeling horny and doesn't want to ask you for it... and has therefore turned to porn. I don't think it is a good idea to punish him by not taking him with you to the ob'n but I would tell him that you felt like doing that because he lied and that hurt you.

Morning Mama !

Andy here, sorry about your problem.

Your fiance needs to be honest with you , if he is going to pull one off and you catch him he needs to tell you why he is doing it. Comunication is the most important part in any relationship . Lying is not healthy and only gets worse as time goes by.

Talking about this will only make your relationship stronger, as long as you both discuss it calmly and are honest. Understanding each other and how you both feel in any situation is very heathy !! Maybe embarrassing but, all guys do it. ( cleaning the pipes ) It's normal and he isn't thinking of messing around on you or anything , he is just being a man. But, the lying has to stop !!! GOOD LUCK !!

ANDY

Personally, I think you have a control problem here. Give the guy a break for crying out loud. He's an adult and can do what he wants without your permission. He's not running around on you behind your back, is he? He hasn't walked out on you, has he? Why do you have this need to control where he goes on the internet? Give it a rest already.

I had an EX-fiance just like you....exactly like you, and by that I mean you don't understand men...at all..and you're too selfish to want to understand men..it's all ME ME ME. Anyway...I'm not going to abuse you because you're pregnant. But seriously...if you intend living with him for long...you better change.

Masterbation for men is HARMLESS and very natural...in fact the opposite is UNATURAL and means there is a problem. When men masterbate to porn it means absolutely CRAP. They will love you just as much and in fact you do realise that by masterbating to porn this is a very good way to make a man faithful...because it tweeks all the areas which might be missing in your sex life. I.e. all the fantasies you might not like and which he may feel isn't bad to see...like a fist in your ***...are you willing to try that?

God sake...no wonder he goes mad when you confront him about it...it's a very perosonal thing and if you want to destroy his ego carry on...but remember that if you start treating your guy like you're his mother...he'll maybe start seeing you like his mother and go off you sexually.

Just relax...I can guarantee it is completely harmless and until he continues doing it...he will very unlikely be unfaithful to you. Also with you being pregnant, have you thought that maybe he's not being satisfied fully? Have you asked yourself if you could do something for him. Sexual frustration for men is very different form women...we stop functioning..ok?

It's up to you...

p.s. Porn for men is just like a vibrator/dildo for women...should we get jealous of your vibrators and ban them??!!

p.p.s You have a bit of apologising to do....you probably destroyed him inside.

A RELATIONSHIP IS 50-50!!!!

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For a start, love, just because some data was cleared dont think you're smarter than him. After all you know what he is doing and yet you stay. Id say he is the smart one here.

Java is something u need to play games on the computer. I think your being paranoid. And if not YOUR PREGNANT! If he wants to watch porn and jackoff while he's a guy and if we don't have sex for long enough were going to jackoff!!!

BTW he's grown up you can't tell him what he can and can't do.

geeeeez, come on you kidz.... if your harping on this, your relationship is already doomed.

Cancel the Internet Access & throw away the Computer... it's the devils tool in shakey young relationships. He cant help lookin' & you cant help checking on him... how do you both think your going to be in a year or two?

You mention boyfriend not husband... that should tell you BOTH something.

wat i will say iz yes i will i b pissed off cause u getting me pregnant n stuff but u over there on myspace trying to get something pulled or get horny or something while im dealing here wat i think u should do iz get him help if he having all these porn problems n he got anger mangement propblems n than i think u shold tell him how bad he iz hurting u n stuff n he should stop but be mean if that dont work play hardto get after your pregnace.. but kno if u dont give it up he go get it from someone else just remember that but i suggest u to not give it up was it easy for u???