Gay men: Do you feel embarrassed by gay men who act feminine?
Do you think effeminate gay men give gay men as a whole a bad image? Your thoughts.
Yes, this little Goomba is gay. =)
Do you think effeminate gay men give gay men as a whole a bad image? Your thoughts.
Yes, this little Goomba is gay. =)
AliBaba
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I used to be embarrassed because I thought they would associate him with me, but then I learned that I am there to prove not all gay men are effeminate, and we all have the right to be whichever way we like.
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I am a gay man of 45 and have been openly gay since aged 20. I am not the camp or flamboyant type in fact I'm very opposite, I'm more likely to have a motorbike engine on the kitchen table than a vase of flowers! I don't hate flamboyant gay men, I think 'hate' is too strong a word but I do find them annoying, I don't think they do anything for gay culture only leave some folk with the impression that all gay men are like that. But to be fair I also find straight men who act 'macho' annoying in the same way. I understand that in the past gay people have had to fight for their rights and had to stand out somehow - we were persecuted for a very long time and thank god someone did fight or we would never have moved on. In this day and age though we should just be getting on with our lives and all have equal rights and opportunities despite race, culture or anything else. Please don't get me wrong, I'm not against anyone being what they want to be and half of my friends are what could be labelled 'camp' - the bit that annoys me is that almost all of them are 'camping it up' for an audience or because it's how they feel people expect them to behave - I'm forever having to tell my partner off for doing it for gods sake! He camps it up because he thinks some people expect him to act like that - that's the bit I don't like. Hope I've made myself clear and not offended anyone - hope this helps!
Wing
Yes and I feel absolutely embarrassed. I would rather be around of gay guys who are more normal and behave like a straight men. I feel extremely uncomfortable around feminine people especially but it still depend on the level of feminine they go. If is too extreme then just leave me alone.
Btw, I'm a gay myself but I'm not manly nor feminine.
gehme
I do not feel responsible for the personalities of gay men in general any more than straight men feel responsible for the personalities of straight men in general. That's the reasonable attitude, and people who don't apply that attitude are being unreasonable and should be told as much.
Anonymous
It depends. If a gay man is feminine it doens't bother me. But if a gay man acts flamboyiantly feminine like Chris Crocker, than it bothers me. It depends on the extremes of femininty I guess.