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Gay men: Do you feel embarrassed by gay men who act feminine?

Do you think effeminate gay men give gay men as a whole a bad image? Your thoughts.

Update:

Yes, this little Goomba is gay. =)

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I used to be embarrassed because I thought they would associate him with me, but then I learned that I am there to prove not all gay men are effeminate, and we all have the right to be whichever way we like.

    Source(s): an old devil
  • 5 years ago

    I am a gay man of 45 and have been openly gay since aged 20. I am not the camp or flamboyant type in fact I'm very opposite, I'm more likely to have a motorbike engine on the kitchen table than a vase of flowers! I don't hate flamboyant gay men, I think 'hate' is too strong a word but I do find them annoying, I don't think they do anything for gay culture only leave some folk with the impression that all gay men are like that. But to be fair I also find straight men who act 'macho' annoying in the same way. I understand that in the past gay people have had to fight for their rights and had to stand out somehow - we were persecuted for a very long time and thank god someone did fight or we would never have moved on. In this day and age though we should just be getting on with our lives and all have equal rights and opportunities despite race, culture or anything else. Please don't get me wrong, I'm not against anyone being what they want to be and half of my friends are what could be labelled 'camp' - the bit that annoys me is that almost all of them are 'camping it up' for an audience or because it's how they feel people expect them to behave - I'm forever having to tell my partner off for doing it for gods sake! He camps it up because he thinks some people expect him to act like that - that's the bit I don't like. Hope I've made myself clear and not offended anyone - hope this helps!

  • 1 decade ago

    Yes and I feel absolutely embarrassed. I would rather be around of gay guys who are more normal and behave like a straight men. I feel extremely uncomfortable around feminine people especially but it still depend on the level of feminine they go. If is too extreme then just leave me alone.

    Btw, I'm a gay myself but I'm not manly nor feminine.

  • gehme
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I do not feel responsible for the personalities of gay men in general any more than straight men feel responsible for the personalities of straight men in general. That's the reasonable attitude, and people who don't apply that attitude are being unreasonable and should be told as much.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    It depends. If a gay man is feminine it doens't bother me. But if a gay man acts flamboyiantly feminine like Chris Crocker, than it bothers me. It depends on the extremes of femininty I guess.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    No, although I'm not effeminate when I do see my effeminate friends it brings it out in me, for a minute or two, then I'm done. We're all caught up and I can get back to being butch.

  • Emily
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Thats like being embarrassed that someone is gay in general. Accept people for who they are not who you want them to be. Sorry for not being a gay male but i'm attracted to girls and not embarrassed by any type of lesbian. There are certain people like Chris Crocker though..

  • 1 decade ago

    YES !! They do not make me feel embarrassed - they

    make me feel very angry !!

    I know many totally straight-acting blue collar gay

    men who feel the same - and wanna punch the lights

    out of these people 'cos they are playing into the

    hands of the media (who know better) and endorsing

    the beliefs of genuine straight guys who have no way

    of knowing better.

    They are doing NO favours to the thousands of us

    who do NOT flounce around and make an exhibition

    of ourselves.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    i don't typically get along with effeminate gay guys but they're just being themselves. i can understand that. (hello, i'm gay) so to answer your question...no.

  • 1 decade ago

    Well I rarely see them outside of movies or tv. It's the media that usually gives that image.

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