My teen daughter(15) is full of opinions about my life lately. She has no problem voicing them to me and telling me how much I do wrong. I know that part of it is that she is a teen but sometimes it is hurtful to hear that she thinks I am selfish. When will she see all that I have sacrificed for her and her siblings?
GP
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Aren't teenagers fun!?! She WILL understand and appreciate all you have done in about 10 yrs.....sorry, but right now all moms/adults are dumb as stumps and she thinks she knows everything! We have all lived through raising teenagers, even thought there were times that boarding school sounded really good! haha If things get out of hand, remember YOU are the parent and you do not have to take her being rude.....when you have had enough.....stand up to her and loudly say "That's enough!....either show me some respect or shut up"....works wonders with girls that age. Good luck sweetie...you have a few years to go till she moves out.
Anonymous
Alot of times when she says those things she probably doesn't really mean it. At the time she sure thinks she does but usually it goes away fast. Teens get like that, especially girls with their moms. You have two main options: When she says things that way pretend it didn't hurt you, as hurting you was probably the point in saying it. Or sit her down and talk to her and explain why it hurt you.
It just depends on your daughter which option is better for you two.
Anonymous
When she turns 20..or gets married.. talking from experience my mom and i fought so much when i was 15 now i am 21 with two children and i see my 14 year old sister doing the same things and i cant believe i did that. She will grow out of it and maybe have a daughter just like her.
Missy
part of what bothers you is somewhere inside you think she is correct. You have sacrificed but you doubt yourself when it comes to how you have done. Eventually they do see what you sacrificed, but I would also caution her about her words. Speaking in a hurtful tongue at anyone including you is only compromising her own character. I have to remind my daughter of this at times and although she doesn't always remember this she sometimes thinks she can do it better than me. So, I give her things to do and when she complains about how difficult things are I just remind her of her words and remind her that you better think before you speak.
amy
UNfortunatly not until she is a little older. she is at an age where your the enemy, the best way to deal with it is to let her speak her mind and ignore what she has to say. later she will regret what she said and im sure the two of you will be friends but for now you have to be mom and to her pure evil. The more you ignore her statements the angrier she will get but its apart of a what seems to be a long process of her personal developent. and you might just feel a little better when shes throwning insults at your face but you happily ignoring them and she get more irritated. pick up something relaxing. your a good mom