My daughter is 20 months old and since her birth my best friend and I don't see eye to eye any more????

It's hard when one friend becomes a mother and the other one hasn't yet. You are in an entirely new place in your life, and the things that were once a priority for you (and probably still are for her) have changed. And sometimes there can be some jealousy on the part of the friend, because she was used to having more of your time, but now she has to share you with someone else.

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Well, I have a friend that has a baby just a little older than yours. Every since she had her, I noticed a change in our friendship too. We used to talk for hours. I knew that she'd be busier after the baby, but it even seems like when we do find a spare minute to talk she's not really interested in talking. I assume it's because she's preoccupied or just plain tired (she just had another baby about a month ago). I just tried to overlook it. But as time has gone on, our friendship has gotten to be less and less a focus in my life. Like before, she was always the first person I thought of when I needed to talk, always the first person I would hang out with. But she's busy now, so I've had to adjust. We still talk, but it's only like catching up once every two weeks or so. She's still my friend, she's just in a different place in her life than I am right now. I don't have kids. So it's hard. Don't give up on your friend. I would suggest though, that you make an effort to make time to at least talk to her, if not even to go hang out. That's something I wish my friend would do.

yeah i think its you that probably has different priorities , ones that she doesnt have to worry about just yet,

im the same with my mate, we have been mates for nearly 14years and she has two kids under two and i have a ten month old and ever since mine was born she doesnt come around no more or calls and rarely ever asks about my baby when she does, or if she does then its only to say im a bad mother lol cos im not hard enough on her which i dont understand how hard i have to be on a ten month old baby,

when she my mate is out every weekend drunk in front of her two year old and four month old

so i think having children does change alot within relationships as their is al ot of jealousy happening and alot of priorities changing

I have been in your friend's position before. Having kids changes people. I am not saying it's good or bad, I'm just saying it happens.

A good friend of mine was a very witty, sarcastic, and fun loving person, and I loved her for that. Then she decided to become a stay at home parent. As time went by, she lost her sarcasm and started talking about diapers and bottles- I know that she cares about her kid, but I really didn't care about diapers or bottles. I didn't mind hearing about her kid, but I didn't want to hear about him all the time. Our meetings became less and less enjoyable, so we both kind of moved apart. Honestly, I miss her once in a while, but I don't regret it- we just became too different.

If you and your friend care about your friendship, you both need to compromise. She should show interest in your kid, and you should try not to burden her with baby talk.

Reassure her that although your life has changed that she's still really important to you. Her nose probably feels a little out of joint because this new baby is coming in between you guys. You can't prioritise her over your baby, which is what she's feeling, but if she knows she's still a big priority in your life she may start to accept your daughter.

I don't have kids but I have seen this happen alot of times. I think it is quite common. It is just your maturing and your ideas on life and your activites become alot different when you have kids. Alot of people go through phases like these in their life not many people have the same friends continually throughout their entire life because as we age our expectations, hobbies, conversations, and the things we find entertaining change! Don't be sad because its normal!

I don't have this problem but you have to realize people without kids just don't get it. They haven't grown up into the parent role. And don't see things from our prespective.

My bestfriend and I have been friends for 23 years and we had kids about the same time so we shared alot

Your social circle has changed... Your a mother. Your views and ideas of whats okay and not are certainly different I bet. Not only has this happened to me with friends who don't have kids, but friends who have kids as well.

i dont have any kids but when my bestfriend had her baby i wasn't jealous but more like mad, i was like "why did she have to get preg. now we cant have fun and go out like we use to and she was like my best friend so we would do everything togehter but i started hanging out with her in a diffrent way i would invite her to places were it was child friendly and suff like that, but you said your baby is 20 months? i got over my little thing like in 8 months so i dont know whats up with your friend, she needs to be friend enough to understand that you are in a diffrent stage in life, but dont worry, when she becomes a mother guess who she's going to run to for parrenting advise. just be pattient she'll come around.