I met this awesome Indian guy and I am crazy about him! We have sooo much chemistry. It turns out he feels the same way I feel, but he has an arranged marriage! My question is, Can Indians break off an arranged marriage. What are the consequences. His parents wont ever agree with the relationship sense I am a White Hispanic Female. He is from South India! Thanks in advance!!!
Anonymous
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No he cant break if off and if he did he would be a disgrace to his family and they would more than likely disown him. Before you get to know Indian guys ALWAYS ask about arranged marriages. I was talking to an Indian guy at one point and in the beginning that is something we talked about. The more traditional indians do have arranged marriages and the non traditional ones their parents dont usually care.
DMG
I grew up in an ethnic neighborhood where arranged marriages were fairly common. I also went to school with an Indian woman who grew up in NY, NY and then had her parents arrange a marriage for her. She ran away, so yes, the arrangement can be canceled. She remain estranged for a while from her family until she knew they no longer were pushing an arrangement down her throat. I understand they have mended fences. The cards are definitely stacked against you. There is a very real likelihood that his family will not accept you. It would also do you well to come to understand where woman stand in his society. How you expect to be treated might be very different than what he expects the role of a woman to be. I warn you of this since many of my female friends growing up, who were not even in arranged marriages, still wound up divorced. An Americanized woman from a very male oriented culture married to a male from that culture (even an Americanized one) often finds the expectations unbearable.
Tiffanie
He is going to have to decide what is more important to him, a happy relationship, or peace with the family. In this case it will probably break him apart from his family completely if he backs out of his arranged marriage. They will also most likely never accept you, no matter how much time passes. It is nothing personal towards you, it is just a cultural thing. The pressure that his family will put on him will most likely have him ditching you within 6 months.
Anonymous
If you form a relationship from a person from a third world country, you have to expect these sort of things.
You have to understand that their culture and customs are completely alien to us here in civilized countries.
He probably won't break off the marriage. To him you're just an available piece of as s until the marriage.
moneydip23
Dont even try to break it up, most likely if he mentioned the marriage to you this is a heads up!! Which means he probably follows his religion and will go ahead with the marriage. And if he decides not to his family and friends will disown him and NEVER talk to him again. There are so many other great guys out there dont get bummed.