Help... I like him but he has an Arranged marriage! He is Indian!?

No he cant break if off and if he did he would be a disgrace to his family and they would more than likely disown him. Before you get to know Indian guys ALWAYS ask about arranged marriages. I was talking to an Indian guy at one point and in the beginning that is something we talked about. The more traditional indians do have arranged marriages and the non traditional ones their parents dont usually care.

I grew up in an ethnic neighborhood where arranged marriages were fairly common. I also went to school with an Indian woman who grew up in NY, NY and then had her parents arrange a marriage for her. She ran away, so yes, the arrangement can be canceled. She remain estranged for a while from her family until she knew they no longer were pushing an arrangement down her throat. I understand they have mended fences. The cards are definitely stacked against you. There is a very real likelihood that his family will not accept you. It would also do you well to come to understand where woman stand in his society. How you expect to be treated might be very different than what he expects the role of a woman to be. I warn you of this since many of my female friends growing up, who were not even in arranged marriages, still wound up divorced. An Americanized woman from a very male oriented culture married to a male from that culture (even an Americanized one) often finds the expectations unbearable.

He is going to have to decide what is more important to him, a happy relationship, or peace with the family. In this case it will probably break him apart from his family completely if he backs out of his arranged marriage. They will also most likely never accept you, no matter how much time passes. It is nothing personal towards you, it is just a cultural thing. The pressure that his family will put on him will most likely have him ditching you within 6 months.

If you form a relationship from a person from a third world country, you have to expect these sort of things.

You have to understand that their culture and customs are completely alien to us here in civilized countries.

He probably won't break off the marriage. To him you're just an available piece of as s until the marriage.

Dont even try to break it up, most likely if he mentioned the marriage to you this is a heads up!! Which means he probably follows his religion and will go ahead with the marriage. And if he decides not to his family and friends will disown him and NEVER talk to him again. There are so many other great guys out there dont get bummed.

My family tries to do the same thing. But nahh it aint gon work like that. I plan on marrying a healthy latina woman no matter what my parents say.

I say you tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same. Whats the worst than can happen? If he loves you and wants to marry you, then he should be able to break off the family trend/tradition.

iim not indian but i was raised ina religion that does arranged marriages. my parents would never agree with me gettin married to someone out of my religion. if i did that then i would have to go against their will and leave my church. for consequences.. the church wont do anything. i dont know about indian culture/hinduism though. but id have to deal with my parents pretty much hating my decision forever. they wouldnt "disown" me or whatever but they would be really disappointed. but love is stronger than principle. if this guy loves you he will do that for you. i would have done it if the person i fell in love with wasnt in my church

arranged marriages is apart of asian culture, maybe the only way you could stop this is if you are some kinda millionaire one way to his parents agree, other wise no! cause i doubt that his is going to turn his back on his family because that is exactly how his family would see it! their doing thing that they feel is right for him! even though he, you and many people think it's not!

he's an adult he can marry who he wants but he must be ready to face the consequences if he decides to go against his family...in the indian culture they are very strict about honoring your parents...so if he wants to marry you he's basically choosing you over his family...but if his family's more important be ready to give him up...its a decision that will be up to him...his family cant force force him but they can shun him out of their lives...are you sure he's ok with that?

No, the Muslim religion is archaic and nothing can be done unless he wants to renounce his religion and end his relationship with his parents. It's sad and ridiculous, but true. You're just going to have to try and get him to give all of that up for you!