Okay this is kind of a weird question I'm not even sure how to ask but I will try?

It seems like my past is coming back to haunt me. My son's father recently started working after 3 years of not working at all. (My son is 3). We had never received any child support and suddenly we received about 6 checks in a row. They were small but helpful. After those checks, it seemed to have stopped. So I just assumed that he'd quit working or something. Well, I have friends that still associate with him and they told me it wasn't true and that he was complaining about the amount of child support coming out of his check and how he was left with only a little bit to pay the bills. After I found this out yesterday, I had a dream last night that he was telling everyone but me that he wanted to see his son and trying to get them to tell me. (he's always been that way.) In the dream, I got tired of it and went to his house to clear everything up myself and find out if he truly wanted to see him. When I got there, the girl who had introduced us answered the door. She started to tell me that he wouldn't speak to me so I just pushed past her and went in. He was there, sitting in the living room chatting with a bunch of friends. I told him pointedly that he needed to tell me what was going on and if he truly wanted to see our son. He said yes he did but he wasn't sure what the future held for them.

I woke up this morning and I have a friend's request on my myspace from the girl who introduced us. Now I'm feeling a little creeped out like the past is totally coming back to haunt me. I know that the confrontation with my son's father was just a dream, but now I'm wondering what to make of all of this?

2009-01-11T09:02:21Z

Oh, no I'm married now to someone else. I didn't know where else to put the question. I'm more worried about the psychological effects on my son if his father started pursuing a relationship with him. My husband has been taking care of my son most of his life and my son calls him daddy. We tried to discourage in the beginning but he was insistent and now i don't know what to do. He's only 3 years old I don't think he will understand if a new man came into his life claiming to be daddy.

dear_vern2009-01-11T08:58:31Z

Ask yourself if it's his money you want or a relationship. If it's the child support you are concerned about go to children services, they will start with the day you go there and pursue it, so that if he is working he will pay regardless. His SS # will be listed and every time he starts a new job it will automatically come out of his paycheck. Don't go through other people for communication. Once a hearing for child support takes place, visitation rights will also be addresses. Welcome his participation if that is what he wants, your son should get to know his father if possible. If you want no further contact with him, that will pretty much end here. If, however you are considering another relationship, then maybe you will need to contact him, perhaps you have his address from the checks, find out what he wants, what he has to offer and see if this is what you want, too. Good luck

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idon'tknow2009-01-11T08:57:03Z

It was just a dream. Contact her and see what she wanted. In some states if you do not pay child support than you could go to jail. Maybe that was the reason why he started to pay however I dod not know know why he would stop paying. Just try to forget about the dream.

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Anonymous2009-01-11T08:57:33Z

you sensed in your dream that you would somehow come in to contact with that girl again, which you did.
you have come into contact with her for a reason. she will probably help you with something, maybe to discuss how his time to see your son should be arranged.
so dont worry, im sure it will be okay, but yeah, creepy

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jessyxc2009-01-11T09:02:02Z

I wouldn't get worked up over it. If you did nothing wrong what goes around doesnt come back around. So relax!:)

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