ok so me and my girlfriend and have been doing amazing and just bout a half an hour ago i told her i smoked w before and that was something tat she was really against and now she seems diffrent even though she says she is ok so i just need advice about what to do and how to fix it
Blake N
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You were being truthful to her. She needs to accept it and move on. Would she rather you hide things from her? I commend you for being honest with her.
Anonymous
I guess you'll have to open up the topic again with her. Give her a few more details she'll want to know about, such as how long ago it was that you smoked, and for how long. Do you still pal around with the friends you smoked with? Why did it seem like a good idea to stop when you did? Why are you sure you won't pick up the habit again? If mj should ever become legal, would you smoke it then?
This might very well be a deal-breaker for her, but give her a chance to understand where you were coming from, and where you are now.
Gabi
Basically the only way your girlfriend is gonna except is well um actually if you get a new girlfriend who smokes to or who has been around smoking and doesnt care.Now,If you like to smoke more than you like your girlfriend than,all I can say is you wont give up too much more for her,and love takes sacrafice.2.If you want to give up smoking for her, (which I think you already knew that,and are trying to avoid that solution) YOU CAN DO IT,im telling you,you have control over yourself and smoking is making you a slave of it.I know so many people who have done it and were heavily addicted,and dont think that you cant either Phillipians 4:13 I can do all thing through Christ who strengthens me. now just cuz i quoted scripture doesnt mean that i am a judgemental Christian..when christians are judgemental thats not being like christ thats being like the devil.(john 3:17 For God did not send his Son to Condemn the world but to SAVE IT)HELLO,anyways you can do it.And dont say how would I know,trust me I have been from hell and back if I can do it you can to.And if you like this girl enough you will and if you dont you should do it for yourself anyways,your worth it dont think your not.God does think your worth it too. And if you dont believe me I will give you more scripture for that too.I prayin for you
*Comet*864*
She's probably upset that you smoke weed. How long have you been going out?...and your just telling her now? Secrets are not the best foundation for a relationship. Apologise and ask for her help to stop. Come clean with her and tell her some things to make her trust you again.
Anonymous
Wow, that's tough. I'm sorry that this has happened to you.
Well, if you don't smoke anymore, you just need to come completely clean, tell her the truth, and regain her trust. By treating her like a princess, and doing all the "little" things that girls appreciate, (sort of like courting her all over again) I think things will get better.
Again, I hope things get better for you. Good Luck.