So, where is your mother in law from? Details too, if you'd like to elaborate.
Mine is from Hell!! My details: (some of them)
-Ignored me my entire pregnancy, but wanted me to rush right over after the birth of my second son. -Showed up drunk to my house FIRST time seeing grandson. -Lies about everything. -Never told FIL when we (me and hubby) were getting married -Told me that I have abortions to spite her from being a grandmother to any more kids. (I had a miscarriage after my last pregnancy, but you can't tell her that, she has made up her own mind) -Told me I was a BAD mother because I wouldn't care if my child was gay as long as they were happy and well cared for -Told me I wont allow her son (my hubby) to call her (She doesn't call and talk to me ever, so I didn't know I was supposed to tell him any messages, lol)
Ok...out with it folks, lol. Where is she from Heaven or Hell?
Scooter's Roofin'2009-02-14T23:06:24Z
Favorite Answer
Wow. I'm so sorry yours isn't a keeper.
Mine is from Heaven.
She is easily one of the most generous women I've ever known.
Volunteers for Meals on Wheels
Happily takes our kids for overnights when asked. Has even taken the kids to her lake home for a week at the end of each summer for the last few years.
Allows us to use the lake place and invite our own friends to it when she & hubby aren't there.
Most recently, when my hubby and I had to have a big meeting with school officials (had to set up an I.E.P. for our gifted, yet struggling child), she and her hubby showed up to the meeting when I asked, to give us support, ask her own questions...basically she believes you should never go into a meeting outnumbered and was there as moral support.
Took our entire family on a Christmas cruise in the Caribbean.
Made meals for our family and took my kids for days at a time when I was treated for cancer & had to have surgery.
Gives us reality checks when we need them, but is careful about pushing advice/opinions on us.
Sounds like you two have two different personalities-but both very strong. I don't think asking this and putting this on here will win you points with her, but most importantly, your husband. If your MIL doesn't say these rude things to your face or to you on the phone, forget about it and be civil for the family gatherings. If she's rude to you in your home, ask her to leave. If your husband sees you being an adult he'll love you for it, be more likely to stick up for you, etc. But remember, Heaven or Hell, she is his mother and you cannot change that ever. You knew when you married him. If you tell her you realize this, and that you are his wife, so neither of you are going anywhere-maybe you can find some common ground, even if you'll never be best buds you don't have to have constant stress or disrespect. Either of you:)
I have the queen of nightmare mils from hell. Shes been a pain in my a.s for about 30 years now and has lived with us for the past 8. When we first got married, we lived in Denver and her in Cleveland and would call her daughter or would have my wife call her at least 3 times a day to see if I killed her yet, phone bills were about 700-800 dollars each way per month. She had to be there when each of my 2 daughters were born and tried to convince the hospital not to let me in the birthing room as I was evil and was going to kill them as soon as they were born. She even convinced my wife that her and her husband were on their deathbed so she could get her daughter back to Cleveland ( there are 7kids all together but my wife,kid #3 was the princess of the family) which shortly after my Dad and FIL dies within 4 months of each other. We cant make any vacation plans now as she wants to go with and after 2 severe strokes, she cant do much. She has my wife convinced she will kill herself if put into assisted living. Stiry can go on for pages but you get the idea. MILs are one of the biggest problems here on Q&A but no one has come up with any good vible ways to eliminate the challenge legally so we pray for an early demise but mine is 83 whose only sole purpose in life now is to make mine totally miserable. Remember we must keep the family peace too. Good luck
Do you pay this much attention to other drunk people?
Your MIL has a substance abuse problem. Her brain cells are sopped in alcohol. Ever had 'the drunk guy" at a bar of party start talking to you? Well this time he's dressed up like your MIL.
I suggest you ignore her as much as possible. When you can't, remember you're dealing with someone who isn't all there. Then let it go, and pay attention to the members of her family (you're husband and children) that are worth the worry.
seems such as you 2 have 2 distinctive personalities-yet the two very solid. i do no longer think of asking this and putting this at right here will win you factors together with her, yet maximum heavily, your husband. in case your MIL does not say those impolite issues on your face or to you on the telephone, overlook approximately it and be civil for the kinfolk gatherings. If she's impolite to you on your place, ask her to circulate away. in case your husband sees you being an grownup he will love you for it, be greater probable to adhere up for you, and so on. yet bear in mind, Heaven or Hell, she is his mom and you may no longer exchange that ever. You knew once you married him. in case you tell her you already know this, and which you're his spouse, so neither of you're going everywhere-per threat you will detect some hardship-loose floor, even though in case you will by no ability be suitable buds you do no longer would desire to have consistent rigidity or disrespect. the two of you:)