Mother In Law From Heaven/Hell?

Wow. I'm so sorry yours isn't a keeper.

Mine is from Heaven.

She is easily one of the most generous women I've ever known.

Volunteers for Meals on Wheels

Happily takes our kids for overnights when asked. Has even taken the kids to her lake home for a week at the end of each summer for the last few years.

Allows us to use the lake place and invite our own friends to it when she & hubby aren't there.

Most recently, when my hubby and I had to have a big meeting with school officials (had to set up an I.E.P. for our gifted, yet struggling child), she and her hubby showed up to the meeting when I asked, to give us support, ask her own questions...basically she believes you should never go into a meeting outnumbered and was there as moral support.

Took our entire family on a Christmas cruise in the Caribbean.

Made meals for our family and took my kids for days at a time when I was treated for cancer & had to have surgery.

Gives us reality checks when we need them, but is careful about pushing advice/opinions on us.

She is simply a lovely, lovely person.

Sounds like you two have two different personalities-but both very strong. I don't think asking this and putting this on here will win you points with her, but most importantly, your husband. If your MIL doesn't say these rude things to your face or to you on the phone, forget about it and be civil for the family gatherings. If she's rude to you in your home, ask her to leave. If your husband sees you being an adult he'll love you for it, be more likely to stick up for you, etc. But remember, Heaven or Hell, she is his mother and you cannot change that ever. You knew when you married him. If you tell her you realize this, and that you are his wife, so neither of you are going anywhere-maybe you can find some common ground, even if you'll never be best buds you don't have to have constant stress or disrespect. Either of you:)

I have the queen of nightmare mils from hell. Shes been a pain in my a.s for about 30 years now and has lived with us for the past 8. When we first got married, we lived in Denver and her in Cleveland and would call her daughter or would have my wife call her at least 3 times a day to see if I killed her yet, phone bills were about 700-800 dollars each way per month. She had to be there when each of my 2 daughters were born and tried to convince the hospital not to let me in the birthing room as I was evil and was going to kill them as soon as they were born. She even convinced my wife that her and her husband were on their deathbed so she could get her daughter back to Cleveland ( there are 7kids all together but my wife,kid #3 was the princess of the family) which shortly after my Dad and FIL dies within 4 months of each other. We cant make any vacation plans now as she wants to go with and after 2 severe strokes, she cant do much. She has my wife convinced she will kill herself if put into assisted living. Stiry can go on for pages but you get the idea. MILs are one of the biggest problems here on Q&A but no one has come up with any good vible ways to eliminate the challenge legally so we pray for an early demise but mine is 83 whose only sole purpose in life now is to make mine totally miserable. Remember we must keep the family peace too. Good luck

Do you pay this much attention to other drunk people?

Your MIL has a substance abuse problem. Her brain cells are sopped in alcohol. Ever had 'the drunk guy" at a bar of party start talking to you? Well this time he's dressed up like your MIL.

I suggest you ignore her as much as possible. When you can't, remember you're dealing with someone who isn't all there. Then let it go, and pay attention to the members of her family (you're husband and children) that are worth the worry.

seems such as you 2 have 2 distinctive personalities-yet the two very solid. i do no longer think of asking this and putting this at right here will win you factors together with her, yet maximum heavily, your husband. in case your MIL does not say those impolite issues on your face or to you on the telephone, overlook approximately it and be civil for the kinfolk gatherings. If she's impolite to you on your place, ask her to circulate away. in case your husband sees you being an grownup he will love you for it, be greater probable to adhere up for you, and so on. yet bear in mind, Heaven or Hell, she is his mom and you may no longer exchange that ever. You knew once you married him. in case you tell her you already know this, and which you're his spouse, so neither of you're going everywhere-per threat you will detect some hardship-loose floor, even though in case you will by no ability be suitable buds you do no longer would desire to have consistent rigidity or disrespect. the two of you:)

Every relationship, including the Mother In Law and Daughter In Law relationship can have bad or good points. But it is what YOU make it to be. Try to understand her a bit more, be more interested in the reasons she has for acting negatively towards you, perhaps she does not know that she is really irritating you. Make the best of the situation and if you want your marriage to succeed, you had better begin to give all the good you can to this person. She is not going to 'go away'.

Hell because.....

- She told her son (now my husband) to break up with me because I am not college educated

- She has never taken our relationship seriously

- When her son went off to college she encouraged him to break up with me insisting that he could find someone better

- She hardly acknwledges our son, and when she does he is second to the other grandson

- We always have to call before we come over and make an appointment, we can never just " stop by"

.......and thats just few of the many

Keeping your dignity and self respect is by not stooping to her level. As much as possible let your husband deal with her. If she tells you something annoying, laugh it off.

Don't let her get the best of you. We all know she is jealous of you, as another women who has come in to care and "mother" her son.

No matter what she say''s or does to you it is because she is jealous and you are a challenge for her.

Unfortunately, when we marry our spouses we marry their family too.

So what if she gives you petty and cheap words/comments. Remember you've got her best gift and will never give it back to her.....her son. Take and keep your gift with confidence.

I thought mine was from Heaven. She gave me a car and everything.

I now believe different.

Right before Christmas, she took the car back.

And I now have reason to believe she may have loosened the nuts on my tire of my new car (4 of the 5 were loose. tire was so warped that it nearly blew on me on the interstate).

She also told my husband (her son) that she saw the car of a guy friend of mine parked in the driveway while my husband was at work yesterday. I wasn't even home, I was out shopping for a gift for my husband and on my way back is when that tire nearly blew.

My ex mother in law was pretty nasty, although not as bad as yours. ;) She was plain old ignorant, but thought she knew everything, and spent most of her days complaining on the phone or yelling at her husband. As for me, she always tried to act like she was being nice to me, but she was just condescending and nasty. Glad I don't have to see her anymore. ;)