he's confused if he wants to be in a relationship?

i like this guy for 2 months now. we hang out and then last night he asked me to watch a movie with him in his house. next thing you know, we were making out.

he lives 40 mintues away because he's in a different university. i texted him asking him what he feels about me.

he replies:

"I do have feelings for you. I'm just am confused if I want a relationship. I should wait til I move back there."

from what i understood...he hasn't been in a relationship and been pysical with a girl for 2 years. His ex girlfriend cheated on him and is now engaged with the guy she cheated with.

what am i suppose to do?

posumy2009-04-13T10:20:16Z

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he was obviously hurt by his ex and now he's scared of a new relationship
you need to give him time, prove to him that you won't hurt him and not all girls are like his x
when he starts to trust you he'll prob want a relationship

just be patient and caring with him

Good Luck
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Auntie Answers2009-04-13T10:26:34Z

I will decode his message to you:

He wants to make out with you, but not be tied down by having you for a girlfriend.

When a guy wants to be with only you, there's no confusion involved. Confusion means doubt, so translate: "I'm just confused if I want a relationship" to mean "he KNOWS at this very moment that he doesn't want one."

This doesn't mean that you two won't wind up together in the future, but do not put your dating life on hold waiting for him to decide that he want's only you. 1) if you continue to date, you might fall in love with someone who's ready to fully love you back now. 2) "confused" guy may want you more if he worries that you're meeting and dating new guys.

Good Luck

JBreezy2009-04-13T10:20:04Z

Honestly it doesn't seem like he is all that interested in something serious. Before things get more complex I would recommend cutting things off. He seems to be very unstable and that is the last thing you need in your life. A guy like that just needs time it seems as though he may not be over his ex. I would pull myself away from the situation before I got sucked in further. Peace and Love.

Ms A2009-04-13T10:21:30Z

anytime ive ever used that line on someone its been because i didnt really like them as much as i thought they liked me but i wanted to still maintain their interest while also keeping my eyes open for something better.

what you are supposed to do all depends on how much you want to wait and possibly be strung along.

never make someone a priority when they only have u as an option.

Davie B2009-04-13T10:20:20Z

to be honest, if he said he doesnt have feelings for you, i woul back off. And please NEVER ask a guy "what do you feel about me" or anything along those lines.

if he really liked you, you woulnt have to ask.

you'd know.

id keep lookin. to traslate "i dont know if i want a relationship" = i dont want to be wwith you/i want to be single and have fun w other girls/ i dont want to sound like a dick and let you down gently.

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