If you were raised by your parents, are you unlucky?
Can you not love a child unless you adopted him/her?
this website http://www.americanadoptions.com/pregnant/article_view/article_id/3204?cId=53 says this
Adopted children may not share the same eyes or ears as their adoptive parents, but their adoptive parents will be able to fill their child's eyes, ears and hearts with the richness of love. By helping answer some questions for your adopted child, you will provide them with the freedom to enjoy a better life. They will love you for it. Fortunately for you and your child, we now live in a world where adoption has evolved into something truly wonderful for the children who are lucky enough to experience it.
2009-05-12T22:10:58Z
Linny- you think thats bad? Go check out the rest of the site! My face has 3 inches of glitter on it from the kool-aid induced unicorn rainbow farts that exploded through my screen. These people are a real work of art! I don't know how they sleep at night.
?2009-05-13T08:20:28Z
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OMG...who the hell is this poor brain washed schmuck writing the "What it's like to be Adopted" section?? I mean really somebody get the kid into therapy because he is delusional.
I'd like to write a "What it's like to be Adopted" essay. I could talk about how I'd look at all my friends and be so jealous of the fact that they knew the woman who had carried them in her body and given birth to them.
I could talk about the great big gaping hole in my heart that was there until I found my first mother. I could talk about the room full of toys I had and the private school I went to and how none of it stopped me from crying myself to sleep every night.
I could talk about what it's like to pass a stranger on the street who kind of looks like you and wonder "Is that her?". Or what it feels like to be sad at your own birthday party and wonder if she remembers it's your birthday. Or what it is like to be 36 years old and have finally found the last of your siblings. Or what it feels like at family reunions to overhear the whispers among distant cousins "Yes she's the one Betty and Dave adopted"
I could go on, but I am getting nauseaous.
Oh and gee I wish I'd have known that adopting a child ensures that your marriage stays together, I'd have run out and statched me someone's newborn right away *puke*
Well I guess I'd better end this and go ignore my biological children and lavish every bit of love and affection on my lucky, chosen adopted child. I need to roll her in glitter and slide her down the rainbow again. I bet her brothers are so jealous cuz they aren't adopted. *puke puke*
ETA Holy Cow!! Adopting a child rotects you from domestic violence!! "More disturbing though is the tens of thousands of biological children who wish they never had a father. No child should have to endure a time when they hate their father because of how he treats their mother. No child should ever have to wish they didn’t have a father."
Well I wish I'd have adopted a child a long time ago then...hurry everyone go adopt a child, it will cure every problem you have in life..ytou will be rich,k never divorce, never even fight with your spouse again.....amd you will raise a cild free of problems, one who will worship you forever..
I mean, I am adopted and have not been faced with many of the obvious negative psychological consequences of it (depression, anger, resentment, etc.) but I still know that that website is a load of sugar coated s*** (pardon the language lol).
I mean come ON...of COURSE there is pain in adoption and it's not all fairies, meadows, and unicorns. There are days that I think a lot about my birthmother and what "may have been" and I see people's stories on here and wonder how in the WORLD anyone would think that EVERYONE would have a positive experience with adoption.
I am fortunate. Not because I'm adopted, but because the people who raised me did not keep secrets from me, abuse me, or make me feel second rate. EVERY parent should be like that though. No parent should keep important secrets out of their child's life, abuse them, or make them feel inferior.
Goodness, someone on that website has an agenda and believes that the rest of the world is ignorant enough (or blind enough) to agree with them.
ETA: oh, and your edit about the glitter from the unicorn farts made me LOL hard...and I'm in a library...LOL thanks for making my day with that comment
ETA2: This is from the question "What is it like being adopted?"
"I am not saying my parents and I didn’t have disagreements, but the difference was unlike so many parents, they were there for me every step of the way. My mom and dad helped me to overcome any scrapes and bruises, to rise again for whatever life challenged me."
So biological parents aren't supportive and comforting?? Man, this website makes me want to throw up from the sugary sweetness lol
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I contacted the people at that website with a long rambling email about why they are so complete ignorant (lol). I think the rest of you should do the same (if you haven't already lol). Although I'm sure they get many emails with people telling about how they are throwing up everywhere reading that stuff, a few more couldn't hurt lol
Do research first. Several of the countries you mentioned have a moratorium on international adoption. If we adopt internationally, it would be from China. I would choose China because our family loves the country and has studied the language, history, customs, etc. so I believe I would be able to provide that child with a knowledge in his/her culture.
I'm sure some are. But that doesn't mean they should have been adopted. I was raised by abusive (biological) parents. Some would say I would have been better off in an adoptive home. I disagree. I would have been better off if my parents had quit abusing me.
On the what's it like to be adopted part it says 'being adopted is like having Christmas everyday' ick. Sure. One box filled with abandonment issues wrapped all pretty. One gift of always feeling second best.a card with self esteem issues folded up in it. And so on! Thanks Santa! Lol and if your lucky you get decent adoptive parents. Not that they really 'chose' the adoptee in most cases. And lol at the rainbow unicorn farts HAHAHAHA!