Are children who aren't adopted unlucky?

OMG...who the hell is this poor brain washed schmuck writing the "What it's like to be Adopted" section?? I mean really somebody get the kid into therapy because he is delusional.

I'd like to write a "What it's like to be Adopted" essay. I could talk about how I'd look at all my friends and be so jealous of the fact that they knew the woman who had carried them in her body and given birth to them.

I could talk about the great big gaping hole in my heart that was there until I found my first mother. I could talk about the room full of toys I had and the private school I went to and how none of it stopped me from crying myself to sleep every night.

I could talk about what it's like to pass a stranger on the street who kind of looks like you and wonder "Is that her?". Or what it feels like to be sad at your own birthday party and wonder if she remembers it's your birthday. Or what it is like to be 36 years old and have finally found the last of your siblings. Or what it feels like at family reunions to overhear the whispers among distant cousins "Yes she's the one Betty and Dave adopted"

I could go on, but I am getting nauseaous.

Oh and gee I wish I'd have known that adopting a child ensures that your marriage stays together, I'd have run out and statched me someone's newborn right away *puke*

Well I guess I'd better end this and go ignore my biological children and lavish every bit of love and affection on my lucky, chosen adopted child. I need to roll her in glitter and slide her down the rainbow again. I bet her brothers are so jealous cuz they aren't adopted. *puke puke*

ETA Holy Cow!! Adopting a child rotects you from domestic violence!!

"More disturbing though is the tens of thousands of biological children who wish they never had a father. No child should have to endure a time when they hate their father because of how he treats their mother. No child should ever have to wish they didn’t have a father."

Well I wish I'd have adopted a child a long time ago then...hurry everyone go adopt a child, it will cure every problem you have in life..ytou will be rich,k never divorce, never even fight with your spouse again.....amd you will raise a cild free of problems, one who will worship you forever..

OK so that website is a load of crap lol

I mean, I am adopted and have not been faced with many of the obvious negative psychological consequences of it (depression, anger, resentment, etc.) but I still know that that website is a load of sugar coated s*** (pardon the language lol).

I mean come ON...of COURSE there is pain in adoption and it's not all fairies, meadows, and unicorns. There are days that I think a lot about my birthmother and what "may have been" and I see people's stories on here and wonder how in the WORLD anyone would think that EVERYONE would have a positive experience with adoption.

I am fortunate. Not because I'm adopted, but because the people who raised me did not keep secrets from me, abuse me, or make me feel second rate. EVERY parent should be like that though. No parent should keep important secrets out of their child's life, abuse them, or make them feel inferior.

Goodness, someone on that website has an agenda and believes that the rest of the world is ignorant enough (or blind enough) to agree with them.

ETA: oh, and your edit about the glitter from the unicorn farts made me LOL hard...and I'm in a library...LOL thanks for making my day with that comment

ETA2: This is from the question "What is it like being adopted?"

"I am not saying my parents and I didn’t have disagreements, but the difference was unlike so many parents, they were there for me every step of the way. My mom and dad helped me to overcome any scrapes and bruises, to rise again for whatever life challenged me."

So biological parents aren't supportive and comforting?? Man, this website makes me want to throw up from the sugary sweetness lol

************ETA 3:*************

I contacted the people at that website with a long rambling email about why they are so complete ignorant (lol). I think the rest of you should do the same (if you haven't already lol). Although I'm sure they get many emails with people telling about how they are throwing up everywhere reading that stuff, a few more couldn't hurt lol

Do research first. Several of the countries you mentioned have a moratorium on international adoption. If we adopt internationally, it would be from China. I would choose China because our family loves the country and has studied the language, history, customs, etc. so I believe I would be able to provide that child with a knowledge in his/her culture.

I'm sure some are. But that doesn't mean they should have been adopted. I was raised by abusive (biological) parents. Some would say I would have been better off in an adoptive home. I disagree. I would have been better off if my parents had quit abusing me.

I always WONDERED what the Social Worker who wrote the non id information that was sent to me and to my son went on to do after leaving the agency that placed him! Now I KNOW!!! She works here, writing stories about What its Like to be Adopted! She was so gifted, so talented, such imagination! Her creative writing teachers must be so very proud of her today!!!

On the what's it like to be adopted part it says 'being adopted is like having Christmas everyday' ick. Sure. One box filled with abandonment issues wrapped all pretty. One gift of always feeling second best.a card with self esteem issues folded up in it. And so on! Thanks Santa! Lol and if your lucky you get decent adoptive parents. Not that they really 'chose' the adoptee in most cases. And lol at the rainbow unicorn farts HAHAHAHA!

I think being raised by your own parents must be the best thing in the world, but in my case, as that is not possible, I think adoption must be wonderful. I can understand all these people who have terrible experiences in adoption, but I think it would be so much better than living in an orphanage.

I couldn't get past the first page as it was enough to make me want to vomit. The garbage written there is exactly that .... garbage .... and maybe the person who wrote should be locked in a room with adoptees who are angry that they were adopted and 100 natural mothers who were coerced.

I would love to know what planet these people are on who think adopted kids are more loved and luckier than non adopted kids.

As an adoptive parent I agree with Linny!

okay, so I went to my six year old after reading the "what its like to be adopted" portion of that website and asked him what it was like to be adopted and his answer was

hard

embarrassing

and sad

and then like the typical adoptive child he is lol he tried to make me feel better about his answer by telling me that he loved me three times at which point I told him I loved him too and that it was okay to feel that way about adoption because adoption is hard and sad sometimes. Then he asked me if his mum was okay.

The creators of this website certianly have an agenda.

urg!