I usually don't go in the direction of God when it comes to adoption, but I have to ask.
If it is God's work to take in all the less fortunate children of the world and care for them and sing the praises of adoption, why isn't it God's work also to expose the underlying problems with adoption?
If some adoptions are obtained through trickery, deceit, and wrong doings, why is it bad to expose this?
If some children are actually being hurt by their adoptive parents, why is it frowned upon to expose these things?
Isn't it also God's work to expose the things that can and do go wrong, so that they can be dealt with and eliminated and more children, hopefully one day ALL children have what adoption spouts, a good loving home, with humane parents?
Couldn't informing others about what happens to children and surrendering mothers be considered God's work too in the grand scheme of adoption?
Couldn't it be considered God's work to expose those who peddle human flesh, who abuse children behind closed doors and a satin robe?
I am not anti adoption, anyone who know me knows that. My questions deal with those who are not in it for the right reasons. If adoption has taken a wrong turn somewhere, is it not God's work to set it back on track?
2009-05-21T07:42:12Z
ETA: Okie, I have no idea who is guiding my life, I was raised without religion. That and what you spouted have nothing to do with the question.
2009-05-21T11:31:48Z
ETA: Adore Him, I do not claim to know anything. I feel cheated some times being denied religion, I can't argue it one way or the other. I am simply asking because I don't know. If God does put it in peoples hearts to adopt, could he not also put it in peoples hearts to expose, for the sake of the children. No ofense intended or taken.
Anonymous2009-05-21T09:20:10Z
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People orchestrate adoptions....not God. People just bible thump as they are orchestrating to justify the atrocities they are committing.
I am a believer in God, and I am a firm believer that newborn adoption is inhumane and should be crime against women and children.
I think as a believer in God (not a believer in any church btw) I would be remiss in not speaking out for children that are violated by adoption, as well as young women.
Lori, How many crimes have been committed in the name of God? How many people have been abused, been tortured, been raped or died at the hands of 'good people' doing God's work? Just for openers, we can go back to the 9 million wise women who were murdered during the Burning Times, then there is the Crusades, the Inquisition, the Middle East, Ireland and just the article in the news yesterday about the NEXT Priest and Nun scandal! That doesn't even touch on the horrors of the homes for unwed mothers where we were stashed. Then, of course, we have the Stolen Generations in Australia that has been exposed and apologized for by the government and which ultimately led to the Inquiry that severely curtailed adoptions in Aus. We have a Stolen Generation in the United States, both of aboriginal native children and healthy white infants, and that was done largely in the 'name of God', too.
God has been used as an excuse to commit every single crime under the sun, and yet, they are supposedly the righteous, the just, the enlightened of every religion, but it seems that it is mostly Christians that are the biggies in this list. It must make God really sad to see how badly abused his name is!
I don't for a moment believe that adoption has anything to do with any plan of God, or anything that is righteous or holy. It has to do with greed, entitlement and justification. Yes, there are a mere handful of infants whose mothers and families cannot or will not raise them. That doesn't satisfy the lust of the PAPS who feel they are better to parent another woman's child just because they are married or more stable financially, at that given moment in time.
And, no, God does NOT put babies in the wrong tummies, I don't for a second believe. No sentient being would work in such a convoluted manner to accomplish a goal! Again, it is justification for taking babies from perfectly capable mothers. Human beings have a remarkable ability to justify almost anything if they want it. And, more and more PAPs are wanting the fewer and fewer infants that are available. Now they have to justify like mad to overcome the obvious....that women and their babies suffer from separation.
keep in mind that when you say "God's Work" it really means "our work" (where the word 'our' refers to anyone who proclaims to believe in and worship God).
God gave everyone free will, therefore, we have the right to choose whether or not to actually do what God asks of us.
I don't know of ANYONE who is ok with the fact that children are being abused/hurt and would be ok with children staying in these circumstances or sweeping the issue under the rug.
Adoption is not the only thing in this world that has gone wrong because of human error (read: human stupidity).
Look at the US welfare system, for instance. It is a good program, but there are people in the world who will refuse to get a job just so they can keep living on the nations tax dollars.
I agree with you that the bad things about adoption should be exposed and righted for sure. But as long as humans are fallible, conceited, greedy, etc. (note that the last couple are gross generalizations), the bad things, unfortunately will continue to exist.
ETA: sorry my answer is a little all over the place lol.
Problem is, even though some adoptive parents believe and will swear up to the holy skies that God wanted them to become a family through adoption - to uncover the subconscious motive behind that belief is to deny that their happiness had anything to do with contributing to the separation of another.
I know why they do this, it's because they love their child. They don't MEAN it in a bad way but they fail to realize just how much it can negate their child's feelings and thoughts.
But in another vein, they truly DO believe God had something to do with it, and that's not a personal belief anyone can just squash or work through overnight. It's too easy to offend someone when religion/God enters the picture.
I was brought up as a Christian. I used to believe that I was meant to be with my adoptive family. I used to believe that my mother's tragic circumstance was JUST so that I could have been adopted. It wasn't until 3 years ago that I began to question why my thoughts followed this train of thinking.
I entered contact thinking God had everything to do with adoption.
Three years later I'm about to go into reunion, no longer believing God has anything to do with adoption.
You're assuming that it's bad to expose harm to children (or that some people think it is). I just don't see it. If someone harms a child, natural, adopted or created by magic, I'm going to call the authorities.
As adults, it's our job to assure that children aren't harmed - by the authorities, by adoption agencies or by their parents. If closing an adoption agency is the cost of assuring that certain children won't suffer further harm, so be it. Adoption agencies don't have some magical right to exist just because they're adoption agencies. A plumber who can't fix pipes is out of business. An adoption agency that can't properly care for children should be too. ANY organization that harms children should be exposed.
As far as God's work, I can't address that - I've seen no evidence that anyone cares about us but us. And some of us don't care very much about others of us.