Moms of multiples (or moms to be)... does this make you mad?
I am pregnant with triplets right now and I can not help but to get mad when I see someone on here say "I want twins" or "I think it would be neat to have triplets" or asking about taking fertility medications JUST to get pregnant with multiples! All I can think is that these people must be slightly brain damaged to purposely want to have a high risk pregnancy and put their childrens lives and their own in more danger! I love these babies, but if given the choice I would have never chosen to carry all 3 of them at the same time because of the risks.
Does this make anyone else mad?!
2009-05-26T09:53:50Z
Jill, I did that for a while until someone actually wrote me, calling me everything but a human being... maybe its just my hormones right now that are making me mad =P
Also, ALL multiple pregnancies are in the high risk category. It may go very smoothly, but it is still "high risk."
Anonymous2009-05-26T14:58:15Z
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Hi! I'm pregnant with triplets as well, via IUI. Such mindless statements don't make me mad, I only find them irritating and ignorant. You are right that these people don't consider the risk involved. I lost twins last summer at 21 weeks and think that they could have been saved if my idiot ob/gyn treated my pregnancy differently and not with the attitude of 'it's only two.' You are right that ALL multiple pregnancies are considered high risk. Some twin pregnancies go so smoothly that doctors just treat all their twin pregnancies like any other singleton pregnancy. I think this attitude compounds this lackadaisical point of view. What is starting to make me mad is that once people find out I'm expecting triplets, I am asked personal questions regarding my fertility. This is becoming so annoying!! I just want to freak when someone says "are they natural?" WTF? No they are unnatural mutants from Mars... what the hell kinda questions is that?
Hi, I think its a very common statement that people make without any real thought to the implications of a multiple pregnancy or the real hard work that follows the pregnancy.
I would imagine many women think its a quick and easy way to have a complete family in one go and its an idyllic thought in a cute world.
Reality is much different and if the worries during the pregnancy aren't enough to cope with you then have the challenging job of caring for babies and with only one pair of hands!
Unless you have them only then can you know just how tough it can be and the creative solutions you are going to have to come up with just to take care of their practical needs.
I don't really like it. I think that if you are blessed to conceive on your own a healthy, beautiful child why would you want to add on to it? I think that those who need fertility need it and obviously go through with it because they can't have a child on there own and they accept and understand everything going into it. I don't see why anybody would willingly want to get pregnant with multiples (triplets and above) unless they are unable to have children on there own and I think even then they don't want to have the multiples. I also know that higher amount of risk when you go into these fertility treatments which is scary. I think women need to better look into everything prior to speaking, which nobody seems to do.
It doesn't make me mad, but it makes me see how completely ignorant and uneducated many women are about the very real risks of multiple births - even with only twins. I try to use those opportunities to educate them rather than get upset about it.