Ladies: What would you do if you found sexual emails sent from your hubby to another dude?
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Would you be forgiving and accepting of it?
2009-08-09T12:03:19Z
I agree, it doesn't matter of a person's sex life... BUT when you've been married for a year and you're 7 months pregnant when you find these emails, your world falls apart...
2009-08-09T12:04:58Z
I have confronted him about it. It's been 8 months since I've found the emails. I do NOT trust him. I'm dealing with Post Partum Depression, on top of it.
2009-08-09T12:05:39Z
Mike, LOL!!
2009-08-09T12:14:47Z
Obviously, he has said sorry and all of the horses***... He has also said, I would eventually let it go. Like I said, it's been 8 months and not a day goes by I don't think of it.
If I wasn't pregnant at the time I found them, I would have left. I don't have a job anymore and being a single parent isn't my ideal life choice
2009-08-09T12:20:37Z
oh the picture isn't of me!!! haha! that's Erin Andrews, college footballl reporter. I am in a Fantasy Football League and my team's name is Erin Andrews. LOL
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2009-08-09T12:43:40Z
Texts? I am unsure of. The only reason why I found the emails because he called me one day from work and asked me to retrieve a # from his inbox. I warned him that I was real bored and I would probably snoop. He said, "I don't have anything to hide." I found only 2 emails, out of at least 4. He apparently forgot about those 2 and didn't delete them. I texted him as soon as I found them. He denied them right away, so I forwarded them to my inbox. Within 45 mins he was home from work... (came home 5 hours early)
2009-08-10T01:37:51Z
i think it would have been better off if it were a female... now i am insecure of BOTH sexes. it is unfair to me.
wantsmore2009-08-09T16:11:06Z
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3 years after this happened to me,we are in counceling because i do not trust him-its not working-i lost the love,attraction and need for him-now he is sorry,commited and changed(?), so...my answer is,get divorced,the situation rarely gets better-even without the cheating i feel betrayed and am sure i will find a better life without him- so will you,otherwise, you always wonder and that's no way to live
I'd probably deal with it the same way I would if I found inappropriate e-mails to and/ or from another woman. I'd wait and gather evidence (make copies, etc.), then confront him. I would ask him if he wanted to continue to be married and would go to couples counseling to work on whatever problems between us led to his going outside the marriage. Part of recommitting to the marriage would mean immediately breaking all contact of any kind with the other party, etc., etc. (same sort of "rules" given for heterosexual affairs. Beyond Affairs Network is an excellent web site to go to for this sort of advice.) AND being totally transparent in all his dealings with other people (so, open about e-mails, texts, phone records, etc.. He temporarily "lost" his right to privacy when he betrayed his marriage vows and your trust!). I can imagine that you don't trust him. Has he made any effort to take responsibility for his behavior, acknowledge his mistakes, etc.? (Saying sorry is only the very beginning. Actions speak much louder than words!) Rebuilding trust is a real tough job and he needs to be squeaky clean and super-accountable, something only he can do (you can't "make" him, in other words). I hope this works out for you. But you may need to think of alternative plans if your husband doesn't step up, sorry to say. Good luck! PS YOU would eventually let it go! Puleeease! He is the one who flirted with fooling around! How would he feel if your roles had been reversed!?! Would he have "let it go"?
Assume he is living a double life. He is either bi or homosexual and is taking risks with your health. Regardless of whether it's a male or a female cheating is cheating. Dishonesty, lying, and deception will tear a relationship apart. I would confront him immediately if i had enough info to be 100% certain of what I had as any doubt will be used to persuade me that it isn't what I think it is. If I don't have the info I need I would put a key stroke recorder on the computer and get enough evidence to find out what's going on. I would not be forgiving and accepting of it as marriage is a vow between two people. period
As beautiful as you are and he wants a dude? Let him have him!! This guy is either blind or stupid or both! Either way, YOU are being directly affected by his actions and it's going to only get worse. HE has issues that stem from childhood more than likely, and life's too short to live it being unhappy. The break up will hurt, but that's why we morn. It'll get better, and soon you'll realize you made the right choice. Be happy pretty lady and take care of that baby!! Good luck
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