Ladies: What would you do if you found sexual emails sent from your hubby to another dude?

3 years after this happened to me,we are in counceling because i do not trust him-its not working-i lost the love,attraction and need for him-now he is sorry,commited and changed(?), so...my answer is,get divorced,the situation rarely gets better-even without the cheating i feel betrayed and am sure i will find a better life without him-

so will you,otherwise, you always wonder and that's no way to live

I'd probably deal with it the same way I would if I found inappropriate e-mails to and/ or from another woman. I'd wait and gather evidence (make copies, etc.), then confront him. I would ask him if he wanted to continue to be married and would go to couples counseling to work on whatever problems between us led to his going outside the marriage. Part of recommitting to the marriage would mean immediately breaking all contact of any kind with the other party, etc., etc. (same sort of "rules" given for heterosexual affairs. Beyond Affairs Network is an excellent web site to go to for this sort of advice.) AND being totally transparent in all his dealings with other people (so, open about e-mails, texts, phone records, etc.. He temporarily "lost" his right to privacy when he betrayed his marriage vows and your trust!).

I can imagine that you don't trust him. Has he made any effort to take responsibility for his behavior, acknowledge his mistakes, etc.? (Saying sorry is only the very beginning. Actions speak much louder than words!)

Rebuilding trust is a real tough job and he needs to be squeaky clean and super-accountable, something only he can do (you can't "make" him, in other words).

I hope this works out for you. But you may need to think of alternative plans if your husband doesn't step up, sorry to say.

Good luck!

PS YOU would eventually let it go! Puleeease! He is the one who flirted with fooling around! How would he feel if your roles had been reversed!?! Would he have "let it go"?

Assume he is living a double life. He is either bi or homosexual and is taking risks with your health. Regardless of whether it's a male or a female cheating is cheating. Dishonesty, lying, and deception will tear a relationship apart. I would confront him immediately if i had enough info to be 100% certain of what I had as any doubt will be used to persuade me that it isn't what I think it is. If I don't have the info I need I would put a key stroke recorder on the computer and get enough evidence to find out what's going on. I would not be forgiving and accepting of it as marriage is a vow between two people. period

As beautiful as you are and he wants a dude? Let him have him!! This guy is either blind or stupid or both! Either way, YOU are being directly affected by his actions and it's going to only get worse. HE has issues that stem from childhood more than likely, and life's too short to live it being unhappy. The break up will hurt, but that's why we morn. It'll get better, and soon you'll realize you made the right choice. Be happy pretty lady and take care of that baby!! Good luck

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Could be so much worse.

First, it was just email.

Text.

Not cool, but it's not *that* big of a deal.

The bigger question is if you accept his bisexuality and if he really is bisexual or if he was just trying to find the hottest women he could to see if she would 'do it' for him and she didn't...

If he's bisexual then he's picked a team and needs to stick with it. Can he trust himself and you trust him to never act on it?

Look at the silver lining, you get to check out the hot guys together and maybe he'll have a sense of fashion and like shopping for clothes.

If you're the type that needs a 'rock' man... then maybe this isn't going to work out.

Buy a strap-on....

Well, what would you do if he had sent the emails to a woman? It should be the exact same response. No married man should be saying anything sexual to anyone but his wife, whether it's to a man or a woman.

To be honest, if that happened to me, the man would no longer be my husband.

I really think you two need to seek counseling, a relationship of lies and hurt is no family to raise a baby in, and right now, you need to think of your child and your own mental wellbeing above anything else.

Good Luck.

I would keep reading them and confront him about it. I would be so upset and make sure I had all my ducks in a row before I confronted him so that he could not come up with a false truth. He may feel embarrassed and push it off on somebody else. do some investigating.

I'd be shocked! But if I'm pregnant, I think I might be hurt as well. Talk to him; maybe it's just some unimportant fantasy he needs to get out of his system.

I would be accepting of the support checks and the time that he spent with his child during visitation.

I would TRY to find it in my heart to forgive him the rest of it sometime in the future.

Good luck, Honey.

xoxoxo