Would it bother you to have a common full name?

It's not having a common first name that bothers me... it's a common full name!

Maybe my mom thought the name Sara was beautiful, but I feel like she didn't put love me enough any thought into picking out a name for me. It sucks to be one of many Sara Smiths... and I wonder if my mom took into consideration how much it sucks to be lost in the crowd all the time. I'm constantly getting confused for one of the many other Sara Smiths... why didnt' my parents think about how I would feel about having a common, excuciatingly plain name?

I've always felt like I was meant to be named something else. I'm a musician and an artist and having a common name is a real obstacle for your success, even if you're talented. Having a name that implies that I'm run-of-the-mill makes me feel bad about myself.

It defeats the purpose of having a name... a name is supposed to uniquely identify only you. A name is a big part of your identity, and everyone needs to feel unique: "I"m one of a kind, God made only me, no one can ever replace me..." and it's so annoying when your name is a tag that says that you're just another girl.

I feel like I'm an extra in the movie of life.

Would this annoy anyone else?

2009-08-11T10:55:13Z

It's not the common first name that bothers me, per se... it bugs me to have a common full name.

2009-08-11T11:04:54Z

It's not the name Sara that bothers me, it's that Sara Smith is a common full name. I don't want anything outrageous, just a unique name all my own.

2009-08-11T11:06:03Z

I'm definitely going to change it... I can't do it now because I'm going on a trip and I don't have the money to change my passport (it's REALLY expensive).

2009-08-11T11:06:15Z

I don't want an outrageous first name, just a full name that is fairly unique.

if I had a cool last name (like Salazar, for example) I wouldn't mind being named Sara.

2009-08-11T11:06:39Z

I don't want an outrageous first name, just a full name that is fairly unique.

if I had a cool last name (like Salazar, for example) I wouldn't mind being named Sara.

2009-08-11T11:08:42Z

My mom's name is Mary and she said she loves the full name.

I didn't mean to imply that my mom didn't love me... she does i'm sure... she just doesn't understand me!

I played lead guitar in a heavy metal band and was involved in theater... my mom says she could never stand to be in the spotlight. She likes to be in the woodwork... I love my mom, but I like to stand out in a crowd... being mediocre gal is a drag...

Anonymous2009-08-11T11:00:46Z

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Yeah, I think that about mine too :( boring! There are way over 500 with my exact name! I'm more arty than musical, and yes, having a common name sucks! It's just so flat and boring, agreed! Cannot wait to change mine :D

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Adriana2009-08-11T11:01:27Z

I don't envy your position, but your mother did give you a name she loved. She had no control over the common last name. Your challenge, now, is to make yourself stand out from the other "Sara Smiths" in the world. As a musician, you could even choose a new stage name for yourself, if you find your given name too much of an obstacle. As far as naming children, more people need to consider the viewpoint of the child; another common problem is giving kids names that are too unusual and get them taunted and questioned for the rest of their lives. Put your experience to good use, and remember that your mother loves you and meant well.

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thatgirl2009-08-11T11:01:19Z

I can see where it would be bothersome to have such a common name -- but to say your mom didn't put any love into choosing your name is pretty harsh. Assuming Smith is your father's last name maybe the name "Sara" was picked even before your father -- so it may not have intentionally been a plain name. Why not ask your mom how/why she chose your name -- it will probably put a better perspective on things. Maybe she always wished she had a name that would blend in and thought she was doing you a favor.

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Anonymous2009-08-11T11:05:36Z

Your name is a beautiful name. Honestly from your mom's perspective, I'm sure she thought she was picking an amazing name for her daughter. When I think of naming my baby, I think of how the name will look on a resume. How will my child be perceived in the future. Will anyone make fun of this name or will is sound classic and strong? I would never punish my child with a strange or unique name that will go right out of style. People are being outrageous with their baby names now days.

I would choose a classic name like Sarah because it's strong and never goes out of style. No one will make fun of her. Her name is cute as a child, sophisticated as an adult, and classic as an older woman. She'll be able to find neat little trinkets with her name on them... etc etc...To me the parents that pick the strange names or strange spellings are doing a dis-service to their child. To me your mom loved you more because she gave you such a beautiful name.

If it bothers you because it is so common you have several options.
1. Go legally change your name to something you prefer.
2. Pick a fun nickname and go by that.
3. Hope that you will marry someone with an uncommon last name

Hope it helps. I'm sorry you feel this way. The name doesn't make you unique, you make the name unique. Your personality can change the "common" name.

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alisha2009-08-11T11:02:48Z

I don't think it would make me that upset. I mean I do have a common first name but I've never met anyone with my median name and now it's even better with my new last name=) But Sara Smith is soooo common that I can see why it would bug you. Have you ever thought of changing it?

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