My husband's brother is always knocking on our door. The bad part is he stays across the street in another complex, so it's easy access. Every day, sometimes twice a day, he comes by knocking on our door to spend time with my husband (his brother). His other brother just moved out from living with us for about 4 months. I think it's a little too much at this point. One night around 3:00 in the morning, he came knocking at our back patio door, which is surrounded by woods, and it scared the mess out of me, because we didn't know who it was. He said he came b/c he couldn't sleep and he saw our light still on. I've tried to talk to my husband about this, but he says to me in a smart manner that his brother can come by if he wants to. What should I think about this? What are your thoughts on this? Am I being overboard or should he try to take my feelings into consideration?
2009-08-17T12:57:42Z
Thanks for your thoughts!
happylondonerder2009-08-17T12:27:55Z
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Watch a few episodes of 'Everybody Loves Raymond', that amazing reality show may help you deal with your problem.
Your husband is the root of the problem here, not his brother. His brother is doing what your husband is telling him that it is okay to do. It's your husband's place to tell him to call first and then the two of you (not just your husband!) can decide if it's a good time for company. Your husband is not giving your feelings any consideration. When are you supposed to have any time alone together? Shouldn't you be able to have a feeling of privacy in your home, without having to worry about anyone showing up at any minute? I would be very upset with that situation, you are not being unreasonable or overboard at all. You need to sit your husband down and make him understand that it has to stop. Good luck!
if he has failed to take your feelings into consideration even after all that you have done yourself including opening your own home to his brother then it might be time for you to take a vacation from not only your brother in laws but also your husband. Find a friend or relative and go stay with them for a week. The time might do not only you good but make your husband realize that you too do exist and what you want is important if not then take the time to prioritize your life and what you may want from it again. I know this is not the answer that you were probably looking for but when it comes to the lack of consideration really does time apart not make the heart grow fonder? Good luck in what ever you do decide to do and make sure that your voice is heard
Ask your husband if it's worth it for you to be made miserable in your own home, that should be a clue as to whether your husband gives a darn about your feelings or not. Something tells me he doesnt, by the sounds of your question. Maybe you should start constantly knocking on bros door and see if he likes it. Just tell bro, youre bored and then leave. Do it tons of times and see if hubby likes it..lol
Tell your brother in law that you need some privacy and to call first. Tell your husband if he likes spending so much time with his brother that he can move in with him. Seyt a certain time that visitors aren't welcome...like before 10 am and after 10 pm and stick a note on the door saying your not accepting visitors at that time.