My husband's brother won't leave us alone.......?

Watch a few episodes of 'Everybody Loves Raymond', that amazing reality show may help you deal with your problem.

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Your husband is the root of the problem here, not his brother. His brother is doing what your husband is telling him that it is okay to do. It's your husband's place to tell him to call first and then the two of you (not just your husband!) can decide if it's a good time for company. Your husband is not giving your feelings any consideration. When are you supposed to have any time alone together? Shouldn't you be able to have a feeling of privacy in your home, without having to worry about anyone showing up at any minute? I would be very upset with that situation, you are not being unreasonable or overboard at all. You need to sit your husband down and make him understand that it has to stop. Good luck!

if he has failed to take your feelings into consideration even after all that you have done yourself including opening your own home to his brother then it might be time for you to take a vacation from not only your brother in laws but also your husband. Find a friend or relative and go stay with them for a week. The time might do not only you good but make your husband realize that you too do exist and what you want is important if not then take the time to prioritize your life and what you may want from it again. I know this is not the answer that you were probably looking for but when it comes to the lack of consideration really does time apart not make the heart grow fonder? Good luck in what ever you do decide to do and make sure that your voice is heard

Ask your husband if it's worth it for you to be made miserable in your own home, that should be a clue as to whether your husband gives a darn about your feelings or not. Something tells me he doesnt, by the sounds of your question. Maybe you should start constantly knocking on bros door and see if he likes it. Just tell bro, youre bored and then leave. Do it tons of times and see if hubby likes it..lol

Tell your brother in law that you need some privacy and to call first. Tell your husband if he likes spending so much time with his brother that he can move in with him. Seyt a certain time that visitors aren't welcome...like before 10 am and after 10 pm and stick a note on the door saying your not accepting visitors at that time.

As long as he knocks I think you should welcome him in your home. Waking you up at 3 am is a bit much though, either tell him not to drop by past a certain time or use the light by your door as a cue as to when it's ok for him to come over. Whatever you do, don't give him a key!

well you need to compromise and so does your husband. obviously 3am is a little out of control. so tell your husband that you don't mind him coming over but you want to set up some general guidlines. like not before 9am or after 10pm or something like that. that is not being unreasonable. and do it kindly so he doesn't get defensive.

maybe start planning things for you guys to do at home together like rent romantic movies or make dinner for 2 just explain that you would enjoy some one on one time. your husband should understand this.

Homeboy needs to get a dog, an internet friend, a pen pal, a woman or something.

Your husband needs to man up and tell him, he is spending waaay too much time over at your house. I understand that it is HIS brother but that is still YOUR house.

But I have to tell you something, you must be really sweet. Because your husband would be looking at his brother everyday, that is were HE would be living.

Tell him to marry his brother than. Your husbands first priority is you. He needs to be compassionate of how it's affecting you. Brother should call first and maybe your husband should go visit him instead

Knocking on the door at 3AM is absurd!

Yeah, the middle of the night is a bit much. Also, don't you mean your brother in law? I don't know, when I see "my husbands brother" it is like trying not to admit you are related to him.

Brotherly love takes second place to marital love. Why don't you tell your brother-in-law to give you a ring before he stops by because sometimes you might not be properly attired and that you feel embarrassed.