Somewhat of a friend...Kind of long.?

A girl I have known since were were 5 recently had her 3rd child (shes 23). When I went to visit her and her new baby in the hospital she stated that she would be over to my house on Tuesday so that I could help her take care of her three kids because she didn't know if she could handle them all.

I just smiled and didn't say anything because all of her family was just staring at me.

Im not sure how to tell her NO. I am going to school, taking care of my own child, and taking care of my grandmother who is going to have surgery Monday. My husband is angry I didn't say anything to her already.

She has already whinnied to me that they have no money and wants me to buy her kid diapers and her cigs. She couldn't afford the first two and claimed she HAD to have a boy because she didn't want anymore kids after that (the other two are girls).

I am tempted just to stop talking to her...would that be rude?

2009-09-12T09:22:08Z

I also once watched her kids for two weeks...she claimed she was going to pay me and never did. I was late to her baby shower (which I am hardly ever late to anything!) I appoligised and she announced that I am always late to everything. I also have bought her kids several items they needed and never was paid back. I know I am dumb to keep doing it.

Panda2009-09-12T09:18:34Z

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your friend uses you she should not be smoking and plus you have your own stuff to do. call her and lay down the law

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LadyCatherine2009-09-12T09:25:05Z

I really don't think she will listen to you , no matter what you say..

I would consider not talking to her also.. no it would not be rude.. for a mom that can' afford diapers and STILL smokes.. Doesn't really sound like someone I want to hang out with..

On the day she is suppose to come over for YOU to help with HER kids,, call her up and say ""OH my god, I forgot I have to do this,(make sometimes up), I'll call you in a few hours and tell you to come over.." then DON"T call.......

lock all your doors and don't answer the phone.. she will get the hint after a while..

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Random Chick2009-09-12T09:23:31Z

i would just simply tell her the truth. you cant afford it and you don't have the time to help her. i think that is very rude of her to expect that from you. if she doesn't understand that you cant help her like that, she isn't really a friend anyway.

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