Do you socialize offline with people who have a connection to adoption? Is it because of adoption, or random?
This is a strange question, and it really has no relevance other than my own curiosity:
Do you find that a significant number of the people you socialize with offline for reasons other than discussing adoption have a connection to adoption anyway?
I ask because I belatedly realized the other day that about 50% of the friends I socialize with regularly (as opposed to just acquaintances) are adoptees. By this I mean offline, real world, not "issue based" friends. Friends I met when we worked at the same place, or lived in the same building, or were the friend of another friend, etc., and happened to hit it off with. NOT friends I met through anything adoption-related, or people I spend time with because of their adoption status or talk more about adoption with than any other relevant topic. About half of mine are adoptees regardless, even though I am not an adoptee myself.
I suspect this is just a coincidence, and doesn't have any deeper meaning, but it made me curious if anyone else had the same experience.
Do you find that a sizable number of your friends you met and socialize with offline for reasons NOT related to adoption are from a particular group in the adoption "triad"? Is it the same group as your own, or is it a different group? Do you think there's any particular reason if so, or just the luck of the draw?
Daisy-- yeah, that's exactly what I meant, but you put it better than I did. People we choose to socialize with because of our likes and dislikes, and what we enjoy doing. Thanks!
Sorry I misspelled your name, Daisey. I'm embarrassed.
Linny-- thanks for the compliment. That means a great deal to me, because I have a lot of respect for you, even when we disagree on things. You seem like a very intelligent and articulate person.
To answer your question, I hope to adopt from foster care someday, but I don't feel that I'm old enough to be an effective parent to a child in the age range I'm leaning toward, which is 8-10ish. (I technically could be a biological parent to a child that age if I had started early, but it would be a bit of a stretch.) So I'm maturing myself first, like a fine cheese. ;-)
As a child, I was friends with a whole bunch of foster kids, including a sibling group whom my parents tried to adopt, but who disappeared into the system in the meantime when they abruptly got the boot from their foster placement-- definitely a formative experience for me.
Also, one of my two best friends is an adoptee.
That is probably way more than you actually care about, but that's your answer. :-)
Thanks for your answers, everyone. None of the thumbs down are from me. All these answers have been great.