Do you socialize offline with people who have a connection to adoption? Is it because of adoption, or random?

I think just about everyone I know ends up having some kind of link to adoption. Adoption affects so many people.

I seem to find myself making friends with adoptees, long before I even know they are adopted. It's kind of weird, but we end up being very compatible and are drawn to each other without even knowing the adoption connection at first. As a natural mom, I am someone they can bounce their feelings off and feel safe and get a "mom" perspective. I also get the perspective in reverse.

I do socialize with some foster families...Some I knew before I decided to foster (one in particular was my inspiration, actually), and many I've gotten to know since our training.

It really helps because of the parenting tips...You can't always parent a foster/adoptive child the same way that you would parent a biochild, and I've picked up some awesome info.

That said, my best friend in high school was an adoptee as well, and my husband and I have several adoptees in our families, so there are some that we have known "unintentionally".

I also used to work with S.S., in several capacities, so I got to know foster families there, too.

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Not really. The only people who I know are adopted are those I've met on-line. As to being friends with someone because of it - it'll never happen. I make friends with people because we like each other, get on, and understand some of the ways the other one thinks, not because of something as inane as having adoption in common (which isn't to say that talking about having adoption in common never leads to friendships being formed).

I'd have to count how many of my friends are adopted or somehow involved in adoption... 4. 4 is a lot considering I have like 6 friends, half of them not even living in the same counntry as I do.

So, basically 2/3 of the people I socialize with are adoptees but I think that number is kind of weirded out since I don't know a lot of people...

But on here, it's adoptees, APs, and first moms mostly. :)

Yes. I've always had friends and family members who were adopted. My kids seem to have an attraction to adoptees as well.

Nope. Before I became active in adoption reform, I probably only knew 4 adoptees my whole life- and one was my a brother, one was me, and then 2 were girls in high school.

My dh has a cousin who adopted through foster care 2 years ago, but we do not really socialize with them. We have become closer since they adopted, though, and have read many of the books I post here after I recommended them.

I am curious, though- you have such enlightening answers- which part of the triad do you belong?

Most of my family is adopted and that includes my husband and some in-laws. Other than that, I don't think I have any close friends that are adopted.

I know a few people who are adopted. My adoptive sister is the only one I'm really close too though.

I know more adoptive parents in real life. But honestly I don't relate to them as far as adoption related stuff goes.

Yes, my closest friends are women from my group. I met them because of adoption, but we have formed great friendships outside of adoption and talk about every aspect of our lives. I treasure their friendships and would be desolate without their support.

My very best friend and I have sort of drifted apart, largely due to distance. But, she has made a valiant attempt to understand what I feel as the mother of a child lost to adoption. She was beside me when I had the breakdown that destroyed my marriage and did harm to my other children. I have felt guilty about that for years. It was only recently that I realized that it began almost 4 months after my son turned 18 and could legally search for me. I had held my breath for those 18 years, and when he didn't search I lost it. She saw that and what it took me to climb out. She then found out that she was also "touched by adoption" unknown to her. Her father's girlfriend in high school had a child who was surrendered to adoption and while she was away giving birth to that child, my friend's mother got pregnant and they had a shotgun wedding and a few months later my friend was born. The lost older sister found her just after my son found me.

I think that we associate with way more people who are likewise affected by adoption in one way or another. We just don't know it, or sometimes they don't.