My friend told me her 4 year old granddaughter takes showers with her dad and wanted my opinion about it. I did not want to offend her but I said I thought his daughter was too old to be in the shower with her dad. That was my opinion of course. The dad of the child is her son. What is your opinion of this? Poppy
I do not give thumbs down. They hired someone else for that.
janeandart2000
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Well... I have a five year old son and I never bathed with him. His father would sometimes take him in the shower with him when he was younger. I feel after the age of 2 the child would ask too many questions to just ignore. Especially a child of the opposite sex. I would think that the average Dad would not feel comfortable taking a shower with his 4 y/o daughter! I think in todays world we have to be careful what we make our children feel comfortable with! I know I would never want my children to think it is o.k. to bathe or shower with an adult!
What if another adult wanted to shower with this young girl? "well, I do it with my Dad so it must be o.k.!" I think you did the right thing by telling your friend you thought it was wrong. The more people that tell her it's wrong, maybe she will put a stop to it. We always say we don't care what other people think, but we really do! I think you were a good friend to tell her your honest opinion!
Victoria
Let me say this. For the life of me I can not understand why on earth a man of 40 would want to take a bath with his 4 or 5 year old daughter. I have had the experience of witnessing this happen. IT has taken me back. There is no law that says it is wrong or no moraly correct. I mean what man in his right mind would want to enter a bath tub naked with his precious daughter? it is sick and wrong. There should be more laws to protect children and Child Procetive Services needs a re-haul! I am sick and sad that the people in place to protect children are protecting parents bad behaivour.
isotope2007
No she shouldnt be, one very obvious reason in his equipment is right at eye level for the child. I have nothing against nudity per se but father/daughter nudity or mother/son ? You got to admit its a bit weird and disturbing. If I were this childs mother, or other family member I would be very concerned about the fathers motives ...
There is a HUGE difference between a nudist park and a tiny shower stall to put things into perspective for some of you. When someone advocates adult/child nudity I have to wonder at THEIR motives.
You go Paul ! Behind the barn, totally agree
caraohara
It's not appropriate for a 4 yr old to shower with her naked father / male. The fact that your friend asked you this..shows she also has some concerns about it. As a grand mother myself ...if I thought my son was showering with my grand daughter ...I would let me feelings be known loud and clear. We live in a society were there is major abuse of children going on....and those who keep quite about it , are as bad as the ones who is doing the abusing. Your friend should let her feelings be known to her son.
Anonymous
BAD!
I can not offer any more insight than what's been given.
If dad wants to walk from the shower to his room....ok....I guess.
I have a huge problem with nudity. I'm a prude.
I just think that "private parts" should be kept private.
I'll tell you something.
I never saw my dad naked.
Last year, after a tragic car accident, my dad was in hospital for 2 months before he died.
I rarely left his side.
And, I still did not see him naked.
He would not have wanted that; neither did I.
(Just an opinion)