Right or Wrong In Situation?
Okay, so pretty much I need to know if my view on this is right or wrong. Nothing more or less, I am not trying to whine about my problems. (even though it may seem that way)
First off, my parents are divorced and hate each other. I live with my mum, my dad pays child support, my mum thinks he is cheap, my dad thinks she is taking too much of his money.
So, my 'story' :
I am still in high school, and get student photos taken every year. Up until last year, my MOTHER always purchased photos and gave some to my FATHER and his family. Without complaining or making a big deal about it. Last year, I brought the photos home, gave them to my MUM to hand out for the holidays, and they pretty much went missing. I haven't seen them since, my DAD never got the photos. (he was never asked to purchase his own) My DAD was really upset, and turned his anger over to me, because I couldn't get the photos for him, and he just had to tell me how horrible my MOTHER is. (rightfully so; he believes she cheated on him, and I am pretty sure she did)
Now, this year, when my MOTHER ordered photos, I asked her if she would purchase some for my FATHER, or if I should myself (I want to avoid a confrontation with my father, so giving school photos to him with out letting on I payed for them is the best option). My MOTHER said not to be silly, I can't buy my own photos, she would order the cheapest package, my DAD doesn't deserve her charity, blahblah. Anyway, I got the impression she would give some to him, for my sake. Now that we have the photos at home, I asked to have some for my FATHER and his family, but my mother said no, 'he never does anything for me'. I tried to tell her that I said I would pay for them, but of course, she cares more about staying 'in power' or whatever, and she can't do anything for my DAD even to help me. I obviously don't want to tell her how much my FATHER gets upset about silly things, and at me, because the last thing I need is her to hate him even more.
So, am I crazy to think my DAD should get some photos like he used to? Remember my mum just stopped giving them out to his family without notice. I know this seems silly, but between two people who hate each other, it is not. I just don't want anymore fighting... maybe I should just steal some photos and give them away anyway, paying my mum if she finds out? (maybe that option sucks too, my mother is not someone you want to be around when she is upset) So, angry mum, or angry dad?
Thanks if you bother to read this; again I am not complaining about my problems, I just want to know if I am thinking straight.
Thank-you for your input. I should probably clarify that my father IS a little cheap, and thinks that he should just get the photos anyway because he used to without problems. I just never wanted to ask my dad to buy his own photos because he would get angry. That is why I want to pay for them.
Aw, thanks everyone:) You've made me feel better about this! I'll think some more about talking to my mum. Very grateful. I am putting the question to vote.