Do you believe in long distance relationships? There is a boy who I've been talking to for about 2 years or so and he finally asked me out. Now, it's not like he lives hours and hours away from me. Its about an hour-1 1/2 but thats longer than what I want. I really like him, alot. And he likes me too. We're always talking to each other, but I'm just... Scared, I suppose. I have trust issues and I just can't say yes to him and then not see him. Thats not a healthy relationship. He can drive, but my mom is a Nazi and won't let me go with "new drivers". We occasionally see each other, at basketball games and family get togethers (he's friends w. my couin that goes to his school). But its just not enough for me. What to do?!?!?! Do I keep him? Friends? FWB? Help.
Emma=)2010-02-21T13:17:38Z
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Oh so frustrating!! I know what you're goin through and it's definitely not easy. The best tip that I can suggest is be open with him about it. Talk to him on the phone (not through text) and see what his thoughts are and what he's feeling. Be open with him and tell him what you're feeling and what your concerns are.
Another thing that you can try is being really open with your mom. Talk to her about it (you'll get the best results when she's in a good mood=) and promise her that you'll open with her about everything you do this guy. That you'll introduce her to him if she wants to show her that he's not a bad guy. But you have to follow through with the promise!!
Try that and it could be a slow process but be patient and keep believing!! No matter what, be sure to stay in contact with him through calling or texting so that in the future (when you can drive), maybe something will take off again. Hope this helps!
If you guys have been friends for so long, do you really wanna ruin that friendship if you guys were to end badly? not saying it would, but you have to keep possiblities open. If love is truely there, it'll find a way to keep you two in touch. But to be sure of you two's relationship, being friends seems like the best way to go. If you really like this guy, for for it!!!! Don't miss out on an opportunity. You don't later on say....what if?!
i just got out of a LDR. i always used to think that they don't work ever. but there are some that do, i learned that in this relationship. he's been talking to you for two years! that's great that means hes in it for the long haul, hes not just looking for a hookup or something. the reason me and him broke was because he didn't what to get too attached because we lived far from each other and he couldn't handle it not seeing me. and im not saying it didn't hurt me not seeing him, it did. but what im saying to you is to follow your heart but also with your mind too. don't be afraid to fall ( if you know what that means) you cant keep this to yourself you both need to discuss this. talk about how you're going to see each other, when? how this relationship makes you feel and stuff like that. you both need to be honest with each other, tell him about you trust issues. you dont need to ask us. tell him. LDR are hard and im not saying they are easy. both need to work hard at it. i hope you amke the right choice and tell him what you feel!!! good luck!
If its not enough for you then you've got the answer, you should talk to him about it, tell him you need more and you really like him but you can't live like this. You two will eather sort something out to see eachother more or just come to an understanding that you should be friends, if you talk to him i am sure you will come to a decision that is best for you both.
You sound young. Just be friends. The more intimate relationships you have the more you will be unsatisfied by any relationship. It gets to be old routine and disappointment over and over. Why do that to yourself. If you meet a guy of your dreams you will know it. Why suffer, just have a nice friendship and see who he really is, that takes a long long time, years. Your instinct is to not trust yet.