Parents, boyfriend, life.... Help?

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I've been with my boyfriend for over eight months now and my parents haven't liked him since the day they met him. They got over it but they've started back again. A few weeks ago, I lost $40. I was with him Thursday night and I realized it was gone on Friday afternoon. They're dead set on telling me it was him. I was the only one who had my wallet that night and there's no way possible he could have taken it.
(Side Note: He went to jail a few weeks before that for theft. He got out and he's going to court sometime soon. It happened, it's over with.)
My mom and I got into a fight because of the $40. It turned into a fight because I do what I want with the money I earn. She said if I kept that up then I would have to start paying for insurance, cell phone, ect. She also said that while I was living under her roof I couldn't do what I wanted to do with my money. By this she means take my boyfriend out on a date, as in I pay for everything.
While I was at work, a friend of mine came in and told me that his father had told him that my boyfriend stole money from me. My dad had told his dad that he did. I went and confronted my dad about it that night and he wouldn't talk to me about it. The next night, we got into a huge argument. We yelled at each other and he threatened to hit me and everything. Long story short, they take my truck away except for school and work.
On Tuesday of this week, I was in a car wreck. It wasn't horrible but my truck is undrivable at the moment. I just had a few bruises but my work wanted me to go to the doctor and make sure I could work. While we were there my mom said she knew about my boyfriend going to jail (this is why I put the side note in earlier) and she knew that when i had stayed with a friend of mine, he'd been there, too. She's figured out that we've had sex, but I'm 17 so there's not much she can do about it.
While waiting for the doctor to come back we started talking about what path I'm going down. I'm going to a nearby community college after I graduate and I'm going to school for English, more than likely Teaching. My boyfriend wants to be a police officer and he wants to go into the Air Force in order to do this and he wants to marry me before he gets into it so that he can support me whenever he's not there because a spouse gets all the benefits of the soldier and he's gonna send me money from his paycheck so that I can pay bills and everything. In other words, he's ready to start a life with me.
My parents want me to choose between them and my boyfriend and if I choose him, I have no place to live after graduation, which isn't a big deal because my boyfriend is already getting an apartment whenever he graduates and his parents move back to Georgia.
My parents want me to get advice about what I should do and they want me to know how hard living on my own is going to be. So what I'm asking is for you to give me your opinions on my situation and what you would do and your experiences when you moved out and started living on your own.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Your mom is crazy. hahaha i didnt say what you thought i would say!!! for real though i think shes my mom who has to take meds to be anywhere near sane. look ive already told you what i think. ( i think) either way, heres what i think, for 1 the day you wrecked your truck, me, my bf and your bf almost cried because we were so worried about you. your mom just yelled at you for wrecking your stupid truck!!! not that your trucks stupid, i just think shes stupid for not caring about if you were hurt or not. that makes me wonder if your mom is okay or not. anyways always remember that i love you. so does charlie and jayden. Junior loves you a lot too. okay. just keep your cool for now. things will work out the way they are supposed to dont worry. i love you!!! AND NOW I HAVE A MESSAGE TO ALL THE ASSHOLES WHO HAVE TO LEAVE A STUPID SMART *** COMEMNT.... well i cant say what i want to say becuase im nice, but you need to just leave her alone and mind your own business. your only being mean to her because your completly insecure of yourself.

another thing... im not being rude this time but the person her parents want her with is worse then her bf. both of them are my friends so i know for experience, im not giving a biased oppinion. also, her parents yell at her for everything!!! and i mean that literally. her mom told me shed kill me if angel got pregnant!!!! thats not my fault if she does that.... o sry rambling

Precious Gem · Answer

People who are just entering the military will not be making that much money.
It will help if you have a career as well. Your parents do have a point that you are
not hearing because your heart is in your ears. Your money did go missing and
it was either you lost it or he stole it. Some habits are hard to break and you never
stated that you asked him if he took the money. I am glad he wants to go into the Air
Force and I wish him well. You need to take a good hard look at him and decide if
he is worth losing your family over. I would wait until he is through with basic training
before considering marriage. You are just 17. Don't rush this.

CoeyG · Answer

Yes there is something she can do about you having sex...she can hand you the name and address of a homeless shelter and tell you to leave HER house.  By having sex while still a minor you have basically emancipated yourself.  Your parents no longer have to be responsible for your financial support and they can drop you from their insurance (if the insurance company finds out they will automatically drop you)  Hopefully you have the funds to pay for your college education because your parents won't HAVE to.  If your boyfriend is going into the Air Force he isn't going to be a "soldier".  Soldiers are in the Army.  He will at best be an Air Man and they make just about minimum wage, he will barely be able to support himself let alone you as well because the spousal/housing allotment isn't that much.  I'm sitting here laughing because I was married to a man in the Air Force and I made more than he did and he retired after 20 years!  You are in for a  majorly rude awakening...I suggest you get out of fantasy land, grow up and live in the real world because it is quite obvious you are severely immature

leeds · Answer

the only way you will stay your existence and strengthen up is to have your guy or woman place. It build character and household projects. There if not something like it. Get your self jointly and get a sparkling head. do not make judgements on emotions. you have only been relationship for six months. How long have you ever familiar him and somewhat had time to get to understand one yet another? yet do not brush aside what you mom and dad attempt to assert. sure, that's brutal yet what's the final analysis? remember each and every tale has greater beneficial than a million part. One purple flag that females could pay attention for is somebody who won't be able to hold a job and or get kick out of the place they stay. i'm not saying to hold it against him. i'm not saying that this makes him a foul guy or woman. All i'm saying is that that's something to be conscious and careful of.

1327 · Answer

In all honesty, I would say to leave this guy. I know that out of the given choices, it would be terribly hard to do, but he sounds like a lost cause. You need somoene who is going to be there to take care of you. Although I always disagreed with my parents while growing up, now that I'm 18.. I realize that most of the time.. they were right, and I wish I wouldve listened to them. A majority of the time, they know what they are talking about.And if your parents don't like this guy (he HAS been to jail...), then I would say to consider what they are saying. In all likelyhood, you can find someone better who has a clean past and your parents will enjoy spending time with. Making a commitment to someone for the rest of your life who your parents don't approve of can be a rocky situation. Think of holidays in the future that you'll spend with your family all together. If your parents don't even like the person you're with, it is going to be awfully difficult. You will also be giving up guaranteed shelter after graduation. So, although it would be extremely difficult, I would leave this guy and find someone BETTER.

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