Is it ok to be vegan, but to avoid making a fuss, eat what your host serves when you are a guest?
I am interested in hearing your opinion! I have just wondered about this from time to time. I am vegan and when I am a dinner guest I normally just offer to bring my own main dish. In instances where this can't happen, I opt for the side dishes and just avoid the meat. But obviously it's hard to know what's in everything you eat! I guess I just don't want to look like a hypocrite, while at the same time not creating a fuss over my choice of diet. Any advice? Thanks so much!!
Lady Mala2010-03-13T17:02:51Z
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Just realize that no one can be a "perfect" vegan. You'd have to lock yourself away from society. If the host doesn't mind, bring yourself a dish; if it's really good, you might have to fight your omnivore friends off to get a bite! Otherwise, I just stick with the salads and veggies, but I don't make an issue of it. I'm there to be a friend and an ambassador for the vegan life, and it doesn't do any good to look like a fanatic.
Are you really going to obey every rule that humans make? Is the next thing raw foodism because it's natural? I read a long article somewhere on LiveScience or a similar website, and it said that raw diet isn't our natural thing. We have to cook many things such as meat and beans, otherwise we would have a hard time digesting them.
You need to think why are you a vegan. Dislike the taste? Then say, explain it and lets hope they'll make something vegetarian. Indian cuisine often has rice dishes with roti. All these grains can already have enough proteins, I think humans eat way too much protein. Could be a reason for osteoporosis, protein makes blood acidic. Anyway, do you dislike the treatment of animals? Well you won't completely increase the demand for meat and it all depends on them to make another party, so if you eat or not, it won't make a difference. Maybe a small difference if you stop coming to dinners and they lose the will to make another party.
I would eat whatever is available or ask to make something. If meat and sallad is all what they make, then they need to think about healthy living.
If you can, let your host know in advance that you are vegan, while you are offering to bring something. Most people bend over backwards trying to accommodate your needs. Otherwise, yeah, just eat side dishes and ask if they were made with chicken broth. You can do it casually with a smile. You don't have to create a fuss at all (and are less likely to irritate the meatheads if you are casual about it), but people won't believe you if you eat their way just to be polite. You would lose credibility and it makes you look bad, so it's better to stay true and be consistent.
I frequently just pop a quick "Ooh that looks good! Did you make it with chicken broth?" (so they know I'm not judging them, but will refrain if it has it)
Forget what you look like - Do you feel like a hypocrite when you go against something vegan? I mean you went vegan because you decided to not any one else.
Anyway - No it's not okay. Because that's like saying if some one stepping on my toe, and it hurts badly I don't want to speak up because it might hurt his/her feelings..
If you don't want it don't eat it. And they should respect that. Next time bring a dish and let them all eat. Like a vegan casserole or something. If not just sit it out and eat after the dinner party is over.
If the host is an identical mom of the vegan toddler, choose for it. How unutterably rude she grow to be to fuss at you. You had of course reported on the invite that it grow to be a BBQ, and quite of calling forward to allow you already know her toddler grow to be vegan (so as that accomodations would desire to be made earlier than time) she basically despatched her toddler to the party. You have been splendidly advantageous to take the lady and purchase her a salad at Wendy's, you probably did no longer ought to, you may desire to continuously have basically raided the refrigerator or made the youngster a peanut butter sandwich.