I want to have sex with my husband, I just had my baby 3 weeks ago but I am so horny for him, last night we?
got heated up, he fingered me (sorry too graphic) and I didnt feel any pain. I havent been bleeding hardly at all the last few days and if it has been anything its been brown like when your period is ending. Hes gonna stop and get some condoms today because last night we would have tried it but I told him we had no protection, thats the only thing that stopped us. My question is do you think that 3 weeks is too early, my body feels ready but I dont want to mess anything up and hes patient so he'll stop thrusting if I tell him to.
MoMx52010-05-06T12:10:02Z
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Your question is very appropriate because many women are anxious to resume an active sex life after giving birth and are afraid to ask their care providers. about this issue.
You may be surprised to learn that the restrictions regarding resumption of sexual intercourse after birth are largely a result of "folk wisdom." There are no research-based studies that show an ideal waiting time. Women should be given the freedom to chose when they wish to resume sex after birth.
It is observed that it takes approximately six weeks for the uterus to return to "normal" size after vaginal birth. So, early "authorities" felt that the proscription against intercourse should coincide with this landmark.
What we actually see in practice, however, is that some women are emotionally and physically ready for intercourse much earlier. Williams Obstetrics, a respected text, states: "following an uncomplicated delivery, a six-week abstinence from intercourse makes little sense. It can be safely resumed in as little as three weeks or when comfort can be maintained".
From your description, it sounds as if you may be ready for intercourse far earlier than some other women. If you have had no tearing or episiotomy, and your lochia (bleeding) has changed from red to pink and is scant in amount, it is probably fine for you to resume sexual relations as soon as two weeks postpartum. I would advise this additional week to assure the healing and closure of the cervix.
You will want to protect yourself from another pregnancy by using a contraceptive method.
You should not resume sexual relations if you have any fever, malodorous discharge or red bleeding.
You're supposed to wait till the doctor gives you the okay at 6 weeks post-partum. The reason why you aren't supposed to take a bath, use tampons, or have sex is because you can easily get an infection. Not to mention you are still healing down there. I know it's tough, but you should really wait till you see your doctor for your 6 week checkup. Until then, you can have fun in other ways (bj's and hand jobs). That should keep him happy till the 6 weeks are up.
Yes 3 weeks is too early. You risk an infection if you have sex early. And an infection can be very painful and it will stop you from having further sex for a while.
So be good to your body and wait at least the 6 weeks or until your doctor gives you the OK.
Did you have the baby vaginally? Was there any tearing? If not then you are probably ok. 6 weeks is the general rule but alot of times that is there to help the women to not feel like she has to get back in the saddle right away and let her body rest. If you are ready then you should go for it...gently. Good luck!
Yes I'd say it's a bit early. Doctors put time frames on sex after birth for a reason. Better to be safe than sorry right now. Just wait it out or pleasure each other in other ways ;)