Talked to ex! I feel guilty.?

Last night I drank a little too much. I was having a great time chatting with a friend online when my ex boyfriend IMed me. I answered. He said my website looked great. I don't really remember what we talked about but after like 15 minutes he said that he had to go and that he would talk to me later. I answered " if you have the guts."

That's when I received a phone call and it was him! He got my number of my website. I havent heard his voice in over a 4 years. We talked for a while but i was teasing him. I wanted to see how far he was willing to go. He said he had to go but i practically begged him to stay on the phone. I was drunk and alone and i guess i liked the attention.

What I feel bad about is that I have a boyfriend of 3 years. I LOVE HIM so much. I would never do anything to hurt him. But i feel like i have by talking to my ex.

Should i feel bad? I want nothing to do with my ex. Infact after we talked for a while I told him to not call me again. I would rather not have this guy in my life anymore.

I feel like i was drunk to and gave him the upper hand. He is the last person in the world that I would want to look like an idiot infront of. He really hurt me. He cheated on me and got married immediately after i foudn out.

I hate myself for talking to him and especially begging him to stay on the phone.

2010-06-16T10:02:46Z

I pretty much just spoke to him .. to make him see what he lost. But i feel so guilty bc of my boyfriend. I pity him for losing me but i pity myself for even giving this guy anytime.

He has been trying to talk to me for a few months now. He has a girlfriend too. What does he want? why after 4 years is he trying to talk to me.

I also got a lot of my chest and told him how much he hurt me. He apologized. He said i was a great person.

I feel so guilty.

2010-06-16T10:05:47Z

I put my number on my site because it's my contact information. I guess I should take it off.

DnEstacio2010-06-16T10:04:09Z

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Feeling of guilt is normal. You felt bad because talking to your ex should be a no no. But since it's already done, forget about it and continue loving your current boyfriend. Don't be bothered by the past wrong doings because it might affect your relationship with your boyfriend. Think before you act.

Nancy2010-06-16T10:04:06Z

Don't kick yourself so hard, OK? It was probably fun at the time and partly because you had been drinking. The guy is a jerk. Besides, he contacted you. There's nothing to feel bad about. If you had contacted him, that would be a different story. Hopefully he won't call you again.
I had an ex call me once after 20 years! It was fun getting caught up but he's married with four kids now. He kept calling me like every six months wanting to hook up with me. I just started hanging up on him when he called. JERK.

?2010-06-16T10:07:45Z

feel bad...but not too bad and don't do it again...if you should be drunk and alone...ALWAYS drunk dial your significant other but at all costs don't let it be negative...if you're drunk you should be happy...your BF will like this...or should like this...i know i always did...it's nice to know my girl was thinking about me when she was out drunk...

btw, your ex sound like a douche...i'd get a new number now and take your number down or privatize it so not just anyone could see it...

QuestionBoy2010-06-16T10:02:44Z

Don't worry about it...

Although don't get drunk too often if that's what you do. What if you were drunk in a bar, and he came over.....would you have flirted like you did on the phone?!

BC2010-06-16T09:59:54Z

It's ok to feel lonely and to want to mess with an ex, next time though, hang up and call your bf you'll feel a lot better about that ;)

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