My Husband Is Homesick All the Time?
My husband and I have been married for 5 years. For 3 of those years we lived in our homestate and saw our families all the time. Well, for the past 2 years we've been living in Germany. I'm the military member and I'm used to being away from family - I consider my husband and our daughter my family and where ever we are is home to me. My husband is a civillian and in the past 2 years he's gone home 4 times (2 of those times were entire family trips.) Once again, he wants us all to go back to our hometown for a couple weeks. When we moved to Europe I wanted to travel and see Paris, Rome, and Athens - but all my husband wants to do is go back home! He says that he hates it here and he gets homesick still. He says that it will be better when we move back to the states, but we won't be stationed in our hometown again (that was a humanitarian assignment for me.) I am NOT happy with the way things are right now and my husband's "failure to adapt" to our first PCS away from our hometown. I was already in the military when we married, I gave him plenty of outs beforehand and I'm NOT planning on getting out. I've always been career minded and economically right now it would be stupid to get out. Does anyone out there think there's a possibility that it will get better when we get back to the US? Or will he continue being unhappy and depressed no matter where we are?
In addition to all the trips home his parents have come out to visit once already. Also, we can't travel Europe and go home all the time - we can't afford it! It's a minimum of $2000 in airfare alone everytime we go home. I made it perfectly clear to him that I intend to stay in the military before we were married. I understand being homesick and missing family but it's been 2 years and he still wants to go home every six months. I feel that he's being selfish wanting to spend our entire travel account to go home everytime we get enough money to take a trip here in Europe.