My Husband Is Homesick All the Time?

My hubby is always homesick. We made the choice to move back to my hometown to be nearer my family after our daughter was born. At the time it was the right choice for me, I needed My mother, not his, I needed familiarity and he understood. In saying that, it was not an easy transition for him to make. Although he knew my family and my friends from home, they were my family and friends, not his. It got better, he made friends and my friends (most of whom are male) eventually became his friends too. But twice a year we holiday with his family and every second year we spend the entire summer with them.

It works for us and more importantly hubby's happy.

Going home twice a year is not a lot. He treasures family and that should comfort you. Do you want to see your daughter only a couple of times a year when she leaves home? Marriage takes compromise, and things will get better if you both learn to do that. I think it's possible for you to visit home and still visit parts of Europe. But if you continue to think in terms of his "failure to adapt" and "your plans" then it will not matter where you are. The two of you must decide on a shared plan that you can both be happy with. If you do truly mean that your husband and daughter are your family and your home is where ever they are, then learn to compromise.

You have a stupid man. He should not have married you knowing you are in the military and would be alternately stationed often. At a young age he is rooted to his hometown like a tree and has no cosmopolitan excitement. And he's whiney like a baby. Finally, he seems to be the lesser between the two of you in terms of career (what does he do in Europe by the way, is he a "stay-at-home dad"? Puke!). If he feels so strongly about going home he can always go by himself without dragging you from your career and your daughter from her new environment.

Im considering why he hasnt long past again for visits. A quick discuss with could make a colossal change. He will have to be equipped to try this as a way to aid him with the transfer. It simply turns out so far as compromising, he's doing it all and also you none. You dont appear very sufferer. How could you consider if you happen to had been the one who moved? Not an happier than he's at this factor.

You sound selfish to me. Clearly he IS homesick and he doesn't like being where he is. People like him aren't like you. Maybe he should move back home for awhile. You are going to continue to encounter this behavior until you do something about it. You may have to question whether you want to be together as well as your commitment to the military. Which is more important: Family or military?

Tell your husband to quit whining! He is with you in the most romantic parts of the world for crissakes! When he is off duty both of you go touring! What the hell is wrong with you two? So much to see and do there! THE HISTORICAL SITES!! HE DOESN'T KNOW WHEN HE HAS IT GOOD! PUT HIM IN THE FREAKIN' DESERT OF AFGANISTAN THEN HE WILL HAVE A REAL REASON TO CRY!! Offer him a little cheese with his whine. To you woman make a picnic basket and speaking of whine, get a good bottle of wine and have a picnic together in some beautiful areas. Most folks would be envious to be together in such beautiful places!

It may get better when you return, however, your husband knew about going overseas. He knew you were in the military and accepted this. He should try to stop dwelling on what's in America right now, because this is not where he is. His 'home' for now is where you all are 'now'.

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He does seem whiny. Insist you start seeing different countries while you have this chance. Ask his family to come visit you all. But refuse any visits home, that could be making it worse.